6 bad habits in bed that spoil intimacy

If your sex life does not bring you as many pleasant emotions and sensations as you would like, there is reason to think – are you doing something that worsens the quality of your intimate relationships?

Sex and relationship expert Ruby Payne has listed some of the most common "bad habits" in bed that only ruin everything. Check – perhaps one or more points – about you or your partner.

1 Orgasm Is Your Only Goal

"Orgasm should be seen as a pleasant side effect, not the main goal"

– says Ruby and offers to focus on the process itself and enjoy it, without thinking about the climax at all.

“Sex is a journey, and over-focusing on orgasms puts a lot of pressure on partners. It kills the whole mood,

— emphasizes the expert.

2 you are in a hurry

Even if you have very little time, it is better to forget about it while you are having sex. Haste and anxiety do not leave a chance for deep pleasure. If you find it difficult to concentrate on the present moment, it is better not to have sex at all in a limited time and postpone the pleasure until the moment when you can completely relax.

3 You don't experiment

Even if you and your partner have long found poses and practices that are guaranteed to please both parties, sooner or later everything becomes boring. And experiments (even if sometimes unsuccessful) can diversify intimate life and give a lot of new sensations.

“There is a whole world of sex positions and techniques," says Ruby Payne. So it's time to change everything!

Of course, each innovation must be discussed in advance with a partner and get his opinion.

“If you want to try something new, be sure to find out if your partner will like it.”

the expert advises.

4 You Drink Too Much Before Sex

Yes, a couple of glasses of wine can relax and set you in the right mood, but if you go too far with a portion, you risk being left without pleasure. Being drunk reduces sensitivity and greatly reduces the chance that you will have an orgasm. In addition, the risk of injury increases – if this or that posture or practice brings you discomfort, most likely, after drinking alcohol, you simply will not feel it.

5 You Take Sex Too Seriously

Don't be afraid to have some fun and laugh at yourself in bed. This will only liberate you and your partner.

“Many people want their sex to be the way they see it in the movies. But in fact, people fart, someone may have leg cramps, and someone may fall out of bed. So don't be afraid to joke,

Ruby advises.

6 You have sex when you're hungry or full

Both of these conditions make us lethargic and incapable of active physical activity, which, whatever one may say, is required during good sex. According to experts, it is best to eat something light, but nutritious about an hour and a half before sex.