What to do if you don’t feel anything during sex

Feeling pain during sex is one thing, but what if you have no sensation at all? What to do in such a situation and how to deal with the problem, the expert will tell.

“Sex is about pleasure" is a phrase that loses all meaning for women with low sensitivity. What to do if the stimulation of the clitoris is barely perceptible and how to awaken a numb vagina?

Low sensitivity of the clitoris: how to return euphoria?

With the development of sex education, more and more women and even men understand where the brightest orgasms are hiding. On the head of the clitoris, of course. Two-thirds of women reach the finish line in sex precisely because of the stimulation of this tiny pea on the eve of the labia. But over time, orgasms can become dull, and a woman will need more and more tangible movements on the head. So, the sensitivity of the clitoris has decreased.

In general, sexologists distinguish three degrees of sensitivity – high, medium and low. With high stimulation, minimal stimulation is needed, active actions with the clitoris can cause pain. At low, to achieve orgasm, caresses with great pressure and at a high pace are needed. Sensitivity may vary on different days of the cycle.

How do you know what your sensitivity is? Try to caress the clitoris. If touching the head causes pain, and caresses are possible only through the hood, most likely you have high sensitivity. If, on the contrary, a long powerful stimulation is needed to get a discharge, the sensitivity is most likely low.

Sensitivity can decrease from frequent masturbation, hormonal disruptions. Rise – from all the same failures, rare sex, emotional experiences. Why know your sensitivity? To enhance the sensations in sex, send a partner, guaranteed to get an orgasm, pick up cool sex toys. How to restore sensitivity? First you need to find out the reason for its decline. If this is taking hormonal drugs, stop them. If the reason is frequent and strong stimulation, temporarily abandon it.

Often the sensitivity is reduced in women who masturbate with a jet of water. This is best avoided. In general, the low sensitivity of the clitoris is not bad and not good if you have learned how to interact with it and get orgasms. But to increase sensitivity, I would advise using sex toys with a powerful motor: first you caress yourself at the highest speeds and vibration patterns, lower them over and over again. Gradually, you will be able to accustom the body to softer stimulation.

Numb vagina: how to return the joys of sex?

Low vaginal sensitivity is when during sex you feel little partner, it is difficult for you to get excited and tune in to sex, you have big problems with orgasms.

And it happens that earlier in sex everything was fine, and at one moment the vagina became numb. Why sensitivity is reduced:

• taking various drugs;
• inflammatory diseases of the genitourinary system;
• recent childbirth;
• stress;
• anxiety, resentment against a partner;
• depression;
• guilt negative sexual attitudes – "good girls don't touch themselves there."

And the first thing you need to do is to see a doctor to determine the cause. After the doctor establishes the causes, you can begin to solve the problem – work out negative attitudes towards sex, stop drugs that block arousal, get more rest, go to a family psychologist or sexologist.

I would add to these recommendations the technique of intimate self-massage and the practice of yoni-mapping, which I give to my students in the course of intimate gymnastics. The essence of the practice is that through touch you awaken the nerve endings in the vagina. As you know, only the lower third of the vagina is sensitive, so it needs to be massaged.

1. After several procedures, you notice that you feel your partner more vividly.
2. Even after intimate self-massage, the clitoris becomes more sensitive to stimulation. If before self-massage you needed 15-20 minutes for an orgasm, after it you will finish 2-3 times faster.
3. Orgasms become more vivid and conscious. You increase the chances of intraclitoral orgasms.
4. The entrance to the vagina becomes narrower: your partner feels that the vagina tightly "hugs" the penis, from which he will receive an inexpressible sensation.
5. Yoni mapping will help to find spasms in the vagina, work them out, soreness during sex will go away.

I always tell students: your orgasms, your great sex and health are in your hands. And the practice of self-massage is the best proof of this.