Most doctors and psychologists almost unanimously argue that resentment is a heavy burden that only complicates a person’s life. It takes away precious time and energy from a person, which they could spend on useful things. People who accumulate resentment have little chance of being truly happy. Why? There are many reasons for this.

Where do grievances come from?

The feeling of resentment arises from the mismatch of expectations about the behavior of the abuser with the way he behaved in reality. That is, resentment is a consequence of three mental operations:

building expectations,
observation of behavior,
comparison of expectation and reality.

In other words, we expect from a person that he will understand us, feel, do what we think about, but do not say aloud. And if we say it, then we always expect that the person will not refuse, will do it to please us, sacrificing personal capabilities and desires.

In a relationship, we expect the manifestation of love, care, tenderness, etc., while we do not consider it necessary sometimes to say what we want. How exactly do we feel when we are loved, how do we understand that we are being cared for. We keep in ourselves ideas about ideal relationships from our experience, from our picture of the world, forgetting that a loved one grew up in different conditions, in which everything was different.

Resentment is the pain we inflict on ourselves

Disappointment from unjustified expectations makes you look for the cause of the mental pain that arises in a given situation. So we find this reason outside. It is difficult for us to understand that we inflict this pain on ourselves, expecting that someone else will live our life and our interests, not taking into account their own.

But if you think about it, this is fundamentally wrong!

Only one who does not value himself will devote his life to another, and such a person will not give you anything. He himself needs to work on self-esteem. And it turns out that we expect from a person what, in principle, he cannot give, and we rely on what we have no right to. After all, in fact, no one and DOES NOT owe us anything!

A loving person, voluntarily and based on his personal desires, has chosen you to be happy with you, because it is pleasant for him. And if, in order to be with you, he needs to “buy” this place, then sooner or later such a relationship will begin to destroy him and cease to bring joy. There will be a feeling of lack of freedom.

And what’s good about that?

Taking offense at someone’s mistakes is always pointless.

This is a completely useless feeling that has no chance of becoming a motive for any achievement. It only creates obstacles to action, depriving a person of attention and mental strength.

Most often we take offense at loved ones

Any relationship is everyone’s choice in favor of this relationship. Choice implies freedom in the expression of feelings. We cannot test anything but GRATITUDE. After all, everything that we receive in a relationship should be regarded as a gift. Such a relationship has a bright future.

Most often, we take offense at close people, because it is not so easy for a stranger to offend us. We do not expect anything from a stranger, which means that we are not disappointed in him. There are, of course, people who are inclined to take offense at everyone: people, God, the Universe, life in general. Such people believe that everyone owes them. And they sincerely resent why they are not treated the way they imagine.

Resentment arises from inner trauma

Any resentment arises from deep inner trauma. At the heart of the resentment is an inferiority complex: it is a constant doubt in oneself and one’s abilities, inability to take responsibility for one’s life and everything that happens in it, unwillingness to independently achieve goals.

We expect someone to come who will do everything for us and live our life for us too. And if this does not happen, we are disappointed and suffer.

Of course, if we wish, we can delegate responsibility for our lives to other people, empowering them with the power to influence our mood and well-being. Let them decide whether to make us happy or unhappy. Just remember that in this way we deprive ourselves of the freedom of choice and the opportunity to live life in joy and endless happiness!

What Happens During Resentment

It should be understood that the reasons for resentment and anger for betrayal are often intertwined. Even the fact that a lot of time has been lived with this person and love has not yet died out in such an agitated state, all this no longer matters – forgiveness does not overpower intransigence.

Usually a person is most offended by the harm done to him. It does not matter at all whether it is intentionally caused or accidentally, or maybe with the intention of teaching you some kind of life experience. We often take offense at people who have a view of a certain aspect of life that is different from our worldview. For vegetarians, active consumption of meat products by those around them is unacceptable. The first reaction is that forgiveness of such an act is impossible.

Any attacks concerning your interests also cause resentment. Researchers have proven that ten mismatches are enough, and a person unknowingly forms resentment. Unjustified expectation is another serious reason to be offended. For example, it can be difficult for a girl who wants to receive a ring as a gift if she is invited to a restaurant instead.

Those who are incapable of forgiveness and tolerate betrayal too heavily react to resentment in different ways. Some people figure out how to take revenge, others are immediately disappointed and prefer to plunge into the world of illusions, looking for a happy solution to the situation. And some begin to consider themselves and others to be guilty of everything. Common to any scenario is the accumulation of negative emotions in an attempt to answer the question of whether to forgive.

To constantly cope with the heavy burden of resentment, a person spends too much of his own energy. He ceases to have enough personal vitality to achieve the desired happiness. Therefore, resentment refers to human qualities that can, above all, harm you.

I will take offense and leave responsibility

In adolescence, resentment as a way of behavior is fixed. Adolescents often use their suffering for show, and they also benefit from it, often to blame the other person and escape personal responsibility. It is very convenient to show – look how poor and unhappy I am, how bad I am, and therefore do what I want.

Такими инфантильными формулами нередко общаются и взрослые, например, супруги, когда жена говорит: «Это он меня не любит, поэтому я так несчастна в браке». Вспомним пару: обида-вина, с которой мы начали нашу беседу. Как правило, всегда, когда один обижается, другой рядом чувствует себя виноватым, даже если он на самом деле не виноват. И это очень выгодно для того человека, который обижается. Почему?

There are also many benefits. If I say so – “he does not love me, and therefore I am unhappy”, it means that I am an innocent victim, I cannot change anything. Here is a very important point: nothing depends on me, I cannot do anything, I am unhappy, and the other is the culprit, the aggressor, the cause of all evil. And then you can continue to suffer without trying to figure it out, without looking into yourself, without working on relationships. Since the other is to blame, his fault justifies my inaction. I can’t change it!

How to try to cut this knot: offense-guilt? Instead of justifying your inaction, you can start by telling the person directly and calmly about your feelings and what specifically does not suit you. Including – about his anger. The second step will be your request-proposal: sincerely, directly tell the person what his action or word in this situation will not offend you, but will extinguish the conflict? What do you expect from him?

For example: “you know, it makes me angry when … we have been living for several years, but every time you forget to turn off the light in the bathroom. And every time I keep silent, gritting my teeth – but actually it really annoys me. I would ask you, please, if you can … will you still turn off the light? “

I am giving a simple example now just as a formula. We do not blame the other person, we do not condemn him, and in general we are not talking about him, what he is like there, but about ourselves: I’m angry when he does this and I will rejoice if he does this.
But such a simple conversation is a very difficult task for our culture. Here you need both courage and humility, even belittling yourself in order to have a direct conversation, without manipulation, honestly.

How does resentment become manipulation?

Instead, what usually happens? I take offense and wait for the other to feel guilty, which means that I myself am right. Again, this is very beneficial – because then he himself must guess what needs to be done. And I will wait.

Such an infantile position is a frequent plot in romantic relationships, when a girl dreams that a young man would bring flowers of a certain kind on a certain day, or call with a certain frequency, or buy tickets to a certain theater – but she is silent about this, convinced that if her boyfriend loves – he will guess himself.

Even in families with considerable experience, this plot gets stuck for a long time: if he loves, I have to guess what I’m going to tell him? And I do not go for direct clarification, for direct communication, but manipulatively offended. And the poor man has to guess: he got a second job, earns money – and she is still unhappy. And she is unhappy, it turns out that he is not at home much. But instead of saying, sulking and making her husband guilty.

There is also such a moment: it is impossible for an offended person to accept that the other person does not do what he wants. So I want him to pay attention to me in such a special way – but he doesn’t. It’s hard for me to come to terms with this. I can’t ask him directly. I’d rather be offended and let him think.

If you’ve ever felt guilty around someone who is endlessly resentful, you know how excruciating it is. And sometimes it happens that you are ready to do whatever you want, just not to feel this guilt. You do as he wants, not to help him, but because it’s easier to calm him down. But this method of action does not restrain resentment, on the contrary, the mechanism for manipulating resentment only sharpens over time.

Examples of manipulations

How do we succumb to manipulation? When we are offended, it is important to ask yourself: Am I really to blame for this? Did I actually do something bad, or are you imputing this blame to me, and for some reason I take it upon myself? It’s not easy to figure it out. Especially when it comes to people who are authoritative for us – parents, loved ones. Especially among believers there are many people who are ready to feel guilty all the time. Stories about the cross begin, about things that “cannot be sent beyond our strength,” we must endure. Only often, love for one’s neighbor is understood as feeding his resentment, maintaining his ability to manipulate.

A person is offended, and I fit into it and answer him the way he wants, thereby reinforcing his resentment and provoking the ability to manipulate. And I do this not because I want good for him, but to free myself from the feeling of guilt. That is, I am acting selfishly. Christian love has nothing to do with it. There is even indulgence in sin.

Example: Mom says to her son: “No one is helping me, no one is making repairs to me, I am so poor, the taps are old, leaking, and I cannot close them, you are all busy, but no, no, I don’t need help, I only live for you, if only you feel good. “

How do you feel when you hear this text? I suspect that you feel guilty, while hearing a refusal to help. There is a feeling that you have been entangled in some kind of network, and it is not clear how to react here. This is an example of guilt manipulation.

An alternative version of the same remark, only in the form of direct communication: “You know, my crane has broken. Could you one day, when it is convenient for you, come, change it, because I myself cannot, help me, please. “

Feel the difference … As a rule, when we are asked directly, we are ready to help if we can, we do not have any resistance. When they try to envelop us in the net, they give a double message: help, but don’t help, because you don’t care about me, then we begin to resist with our whole being, while we feel powerless, because we do not know how to answer this – we want to either run away, or do something, just to fall behind.

Of course, behind such manipulation is often pain, attention deficit, we will talk about this in the second part, when it comes to forgiveness. There is also a non-value attitude towards oneself – such a subtle aspect, I will say about this below.

Another example: “you specially heated the milk so much because you don’t love me, you don’t give a damn about me, you know that I don’t drink hot milk”. It is difficult to answer something to this. Because here two facts are glued together: real and attributed, and this is the secret of the manipulation mechanism. We hear two-part speech. There is the first part, which puts the obvious fact – the temperature of the milk.

The milk is really hot, and you can’t argue with that. And consciousness agrees, yes, she is right. And then the second part is glued: you do not love me. And due to the fact that one phrase contains a real fact – the temperature of the milk – it is difficult for consciousness to recognize the second part of the phrase as a lie, as an egocentric demand. And that’s why it’s easier to admit your guilt: milk is really hot.

Everyone knows the fact of manipulating the threat of disease – this is a very common topic, very difficult and almost a win-win. Because no one dares to provoke illness in their loved one. There is probably no easier and more convenient way to force a person to do what I want, how to tell him: “You see, you are doing this – and I am sick from this, my pressure rises.” Or “you see, I’m so seriously ill, so please do it already…” – the world should revolve around me.

Who knows, maybe we are sometimes just as unbearable for our loved ones when we are offended? If we tend to be offended often, it is worth thinking about how others around us feel when we, perhaps, sometimes unknowingly manipulate?

Touchy people find it much more difficult to build relationships with others.

It’s not a secret for anyone that they are more conflicts and aggressive in life, which often prevents them from arranging their personal life, and acquaintances try to avoid them.

Touchy are prone to cruelty

The feeling of resentment, which sometimes becomes the main motive for revenge, can push a person to unreasonable, and sometimes even cruel, actions. Thus, people, absorbed in the desire to get even for the damage done to them, sometimes ruin their lives and destiny with their own hands.

As you can see, the list of reasons is quite long. However, even after realizing the need to forgive a person, it can be quite difficult to do so. Nevertheless, nothing is impossible here.

Why is it so hard to part with resentment

If it’s so hard for us to part with resentment, then for some reason we need it.

What for?

It is beneficial to be offended

This can explain your current state of affairs: especially if “in childhood, they offended me so defenseless.”

Now I can’t cope with beliefs and attitudes, and maybe with traumas.

This can explain why you are not doing something – “well, I got burned, try it yourself.”

You crave justice

Fairness implies that something is deserved or undeserved, something is good and something is bad. That is, there is an estimate.

Evaluation is always a comparison. Even the highest grade “excellent” implies, at the very root of the word, a difference from someone or something.

Justice is a strong thing, because it is instilled in childhood.

The mess in my head about this is strong, because words and deeds in matters of justice often diverge, from parents to bosses.

But it is precisely the concept of justice that allows us to be offended and even justify our not very best manifestation. We allow ourselves to do what we are offended for.

For example, the offended one calmly discusses “this radish, which dared to pour any dirt on me,” not much differing from this very “radish” at this moment.

But we allow ourselves this, because it is in the direction of the offender.

Every grudge is unique

The uniqueness of the offense is the biggest byaka.

Even highly spiritual people constantly claim to be unique. But not on the uniqueness, which just finally will teach NOT TO COMPARE that I AM SUCH and I cannot have, like others a priori!

And the uniqueness of the experience. How many recipes and methods of forgiveness are written here and there will always be those who write about their SPECIAL pain and resentment.

How to overcome resentment forever

As you can see, resentment does not bring either happiness or pleasure, and as a tool for manipulating others, it quickly exhausts itself and deprives you of your loved ones and friends, so overcoming it is your main task.

Forgiveness is the main weapon against the resentment that has lodged in your heart. Forgiving the person who made you suffer or upset you. Unfortunately, it is not always easy to forgive, everyone has their own term and their own possibilities. After all, offenses are different, in any case, forgiveness will give you an extraordinary feeling of lightness. You will throw off the burden of resentment that does not allow you to go further and strive for the best.
Another really working way to get rid of resentment is to release anger and aggression. Psychologists advise not to keep anger in yourself, and if there is no opportunity to discuss the situation with the offender in person, then the use of a technique called “empty chair” will help you throw out pain, aggression and resentment. Put an empty chair in the room, on which you can put a photo of the offender or any object that personifies him. Only you and the imaginary “offender” should be in the room. Express to him all your thoughts and discontent, you can even quarrel with him. This technique will help to get rid of the burden of emotions.
Find the real reason for the resentment and get rid of it competently. You are offended and want to get rid of this feeling, try to find out what exactly hooked you in the words or deed of the offender. Ask yourself: “Why are you offended?”, “What exactly hurt you, what is your weakness?” The main thing is to be honest with yourself. The cause of resentment can be infringement of your self-esteem or your dream or illusion.
Exercise: Close your eyes and say to yourself: “Calm down!” Mentally separate into two different people. In one there will be only an all-consuming feeling of resentment, and in the second – cheerfulness and optimism. The first person who personifies resentment must be expelled from your soul. Mentally speak to him.: “Get out of my head, soul and feelings! Forever!”

Remember, we all have the right to make mistakes and our own opinion, respect this right of other people. Let go of resentment, do not dwell on the problems, words or actions of the people around you. Demand less from them than from yourself and be strong!

Getting rid of anger and resentment

Sharpening a grudge against the offender, a person experiences anger of resentment, which can often manifest itself in the form of aggression directed not only at the enemy, but also at the close people around him. Having experienced a betrayal, a deceived woman often transfers her troubles to her children, friends and comrades, and work colleagues. So is it necessary to forgive?

When a person, feeling great love for his object of adoration, suddenly gets stabbed in the back – this is called betrayal. At the same time, getting used to endure anger in a closed form, a person who does not recognize forgiveness notices that negative influences, like an avalanche, fall on him. He begins to fall into depression, apathy, or simply withdrawn.

Sometimes such betrayal leads to suicide. So is forgiveness necessary in this case? The Bible in this question unambiguously interprets the answer. In any situation, it is very important to rid yourself of anger. You need to understand that a person who does not accept forgiveness himself experiences mental pain. In addition, close people who absolutely do not deserve such treatment suffer from his behavior and resentment.

What does it mean to forgive yourself and your ill-wisher? First of all, you need to learn how to deal with negative emotions like irritation or anger, which can lead to unpredictable consequences. Only love can stop madness. However, in physical terms, special breathing exercises can help in this case , as the initial path to the concept of “forgiveness”. Its best form is mental counting:

take a breath and count “one-two”,
then exhale the air for a count of one to four.

On inhalation, it is required to imagine a familiar image that can fill with confidence and give strength (a house from childhood, in which it was safe, a faithful friend). As you exhale, you should focus on the picture that most clearly displays the object of the offense that requires forgiveness. With this, you will, as it were, blow everything negative out of yourself, pass on to love your neighbor.

Reach out and neutralize

Some mental wounds are so deep and long-standing that a person forgets about them, he “licked them” long ago, drove them deeper into the subconscious, erased them from memory, but this does not mean that he healed them. Scars caused by severe insults, mental trauma and emotional upheaval will not disappear by themselves. They make themselves felt as soon as something reminds of the situation. Without letting go of the pain of the past, a person cannot live a full life in the present. For example, betrayal and the pain of losing love can be expressed in the rejection of a new relationship. Often this happens unconsciously: a man or woman avoids close ties, breaks contacts as soon as he feels that he is beginning to fall in love. Resentment towards parentsthat stretch out from childhood, affect the relationship with your other half, prevent you from expressing your personality in a free manner and achieving success. It is important to see them, to get them to the surface. Of course, with this memory, pain can come back again. And is it worth “picking” the past for this? Yes. Here, as in surgery, you have to “open up the abscess” to make it easier later.

In order to get rid of experiences, you need to not only acknowledge them, but also express them. And if the offender is not around, has he long ago sunk into the past? Or do you live with him in the same family, meet at work, see him every day, but cannot show your rejection? Psychologists in such cases offer different options: for example, write a letter to this person in which you need to talk about your feelings. What to do with this message later – decide for yourself: you can burn it, tear it or even send it to the addressee. The main thing is to realize your feelings, to show them. Another option is to imagine that the person is sitting opposite you (put an empty chair there), and talk to him. Ask questions as you sit in his chair to answer on his behalf. This technique is called the Two Chairs Method.Or you can just chat with a large plush toy (crocodile, hippo, bear – anyone), imagining that this is your abuser, and even beat him if you so want (for this, pillows are also pounded). The effect will be if you express your emotions to the end. Of course, with the help of a psychotherapist, such techniques work faster and more reliably. The point of therapy is that the person experiences pain anew, but in a safe environment, expresses it and finally becomes free.

Understand the motives

Even in ordinary controversial relationships, it is difficult for us to imagine ourselves on the other side of the barricades in order to understand someone else’s position. And what about situations in which emotions are hurt, did you feel offended, offended, or for a long time experienced unworthy behavior of someone close to you? However, here, too, you need to be able to abstract yourself from emotions at least for a while, and try to find the motives of the offender. It often turns out that weakness is guiding him, not strength. For example, parents who suppress their own children, in most cases, were themselves deprived of love and a happy childhood. A husband who raises his hand to his spouse may subconsciously be afraid of women. The father turns his back on the “disobedient” son, who did not live up to expectations (became a musician, not a pilot), deep down hoped that the child would realize dreams that he himself could not fulfill. Realizing the motives of other people, you cease to see in yourself only a victim: he did this to me because he does not love me, I am not needed, they do not appreciate me … The accents shift from your own feelings to the inner world of another person, you begin to see his imperfection, weaknesses and troubles. This also helps not to keep the grudge and let go of resentment.

How to let go of resentment and forgive:

In different life situations, there are some differences for getting rid of resentment.

In young relationships

A common reason for falling out is unfulfilled expectations. For example, a girl expects from a friend – a sign of attention, flowers, a declaration of love, a fairy tale that is in her head. And the guy doesn’t know anything.

You know what 8 out of 10 guys surveyed answered about female grievances. We were surprised at the reasons and many said: “So she would tell me about it directly.” Of course, most often a person does not even know why they are offended. And the simplest solution is to forestall your own resentment and say “dear, or dear, I will be pleased if you do this or this.”

How many couples scattered before the wedding on the basis of unfulfilled expectations. And how many divorced, because they could not convey their thoughts to each other in time. We cannot get into the head of another and read what he thinks to himself.

I just want to exclaim, well, don’t expect much from people. Well, or talk about it out loud, ask each other for pleasant little things.

Husband (wife), boyfriend or girlfriend

How to forgive an insult to your beloved or husband and let go of the past that you left behind. There is such a practice – pulling out the pluses. The situation has already happened and it cannot be changed. It is important to change your attitude towards the situation.

Take a sheet of paper, draw with a vertical strip in 2 parts. Top left “plus”, right “minus”. And write down all the pros and cons of this situation.

At first, there will be many minuses, more than pluses. Don’t give up, come back to this sheet over and over again. Understand, everything has already happened, you have to live anew. Add the plus column.

Now your subconscious mind is sharpened on the positive manifestations of this collision of life. Gradually, melancholy will recede and resentment will recede into the past.

spring-cleaning

Many of us intuitively feel: when something goes wrong in life, stagnation has come or overcame troubles, it is worth thoroughly cleaning your home and throwing away all the trash. Followers of positive psychology believe that such a general cleaning should be arranged not only in the house, but also in the shower. Renowned writer of motivational books Louise HayI’m sure when something hurts, look for someone to forgive. For a deep cleanse, it’s helpful to make a list of all the people you’ve come across since childhood. At the top of this list should be those closest to you or those who hurt you the most. Try to gradually, step by step, forgive them offenses. By the way, do not forget that for complete happiness, it is necessary to forgive not only others, but also ourselves – after all, quite often we scold, punish or do not love ourselves for some misdeeds or mistakes. Forgive yourself and others, and life will become easier, life will become more fun!

What Happens During Forgiving Resentment

When a person forgives his offender, his physical and spiritual condition changes for the better. In this case, a person experiences:

lightness in the body,
lack of discomfort not only physically, but also in thoughts,
overwhelmed with a sense of liberation and love,
breathing becomes free and deep.

People who have experienced a state of forgiveness note that “it was as if some load had been lifted from their shoulders.” There comes a feeling of a certain euphoria, as well as openness to the outside world. There is a feeling of some kind of divine grace in the chest. The soul trembles and sings. It is these high emotions that accompany a person who has learned to forgive. A person strives for the positive, he begins to look for something, create, do something. The appearance of such a physical tone is a hint to the body that the offended person has sincerely forgiven his ill-wisher.

In addition, there is also a recommendation that helps to cleanse the resentment. You need to imagine the image of a forgiven person, watching his face. If the forgiveness is sincere, the expression on your face will inevitably change. Until this happens, the procedures must be repeated again. It is very important that true forgiveness creates a kind of holistic, complete state. It consists of a set of positive symptoms that make it possible to determine whether the action taken has been sincerely performed. When bodily lightness arises, but the mood remains depressed, the process is far from complete. Everything should be repeated from the beginning, treating the procedure more responsibly.

The ability to forgive an insult is a valuable quality of any sane person. After all, it makes it possible to live a full life, to love the world around us as it is.

ASK FOR FORGIVENESS – WHAT DOES IT MEAN?

First of all, understand your guilt and admit it. Not abstract (“forgive me for everything”), vague and poorly understood (“if I am guilty of something, forgive me”), but quite real and tangible – “I am to blame for this”, “I know that I caused pain when I did so … “.

Understanding what exactly we did, how much damage we caused, how bad it is to another from our actions, and regretting this is a serious act of self-awareness.

Asking for forgiveness is recognizing your own imperfection and your shadow sides, the determination to correct mistakes

And while there is no honest admission of one’s guilt, all words about forgiveness are just an attempt to remove the burden of unpleasant experiences from oneself, and not deep regret for the pain of another. Feel the difference between “I am sorry that you feel bad” and “I have a hard time carrying my burden of guilt.”

Asking for forgiveness is a willingness to endure guilt, take responsibility for your actions, and a bitter understanding that you can be the source of someone’s pain. This is the recognition of one’s own imperfection and one’s shadow sides, the determination to correct mistakes.

WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO FORGIVE?

Truly forgiving does not mean agreeing with what happened, trusting the abuser, rebuilding relationships, achieving justice, or receiving satisfaction. This does not mean betraying yourself or forgetting about what happened. This does not even mean answering the request for forgiveness (the one who caused the damage may never ask for forgiveness).

Forgiveness, as defined in the dictionaries, is an absolution of guilt and an exemption from punishment. And in this definition there is not a word about consent, restored justice, about “pretending that nothing happened.” And only that I let go and release, that is, I actually cease to participate in what happened.

Forgiveness is a decision to live with your scars

Forgiveness is when we say to ourselves: “Yes, it happened, and you can’t change it. It caused me great harm and pain, but I decide to leave the past to the past. I give responsibility for what happened to the one who did it, and I take responsibility for how I will live with it. “

Forgiveness is, according to Heidi Pribe, author of The First New Universe, a decision to live with our scars. And a willingness to take care of the healing of my wounds, I add. Without denying their existence and not expecting that someone else will do it.

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