Boredom. Teenagers have been studying for years, and many are tired of the school monotony: lessons, changes, lessons. “Boring. I'm tired of the same things, “my younger sister loved to say when she was in 8th grade.
Feeling of maturity. Adolescence is the growing up stage. Schoolchildren believe that they already have many problems and concerns of their own: personal experiences, friendship and first betrayal, disappointment, first love, etc. Study will wait.
Bullying. Often schoolchildren, starting from elementary school, are frightened with exams. “It will be on the exam”, “If you don't remember, you won't pass the exam.” Such words do not add desire to learn, but quite the opposite.
Unfavorable family relationships. To want to learn, a child needs to feel support and approval from the family. They have a bad effect on a teenager's studies: immoral behavior of parents, screams and scandals, showing more attention to younger children, lack of personal space, deprivation of the right to choose and make independent decisions.
Failure to progress. The teenager has poor grades in the subject, does not understand it. The result is a lack of desire to learn.
Congestion. With age, the requirements and load on additional classes greatly increases, requires more time and effort. At school, the volume of tasks and the load on subjects also increases. 59% of schoolchildren experience a shortage of time for their favorite activities (according to the ONF).
Hyperactivity. It is simply difficult for a child to concentrate on lessons and homework. He wants to run around the stadium, kick the ball or dance all day long. In this case, the sports section according to the interests of the student can help.
Lack of interest. According to ONF research, an insufficient number of interesting lessons is noted by 48% of Russian schoolchildren. 31% – the absence of subjects useful for the future specialty. This point is more about secondary school teachers. They should try to structure the lessons so that the students are really interested.
Conflicts with teachers. This may be the fault of both the children and the teachers themselves. The child could joke unsuccessfully, speak rudely, fail to do his homework, thereby angering the teacher. Likewise, a teacher can underestimate grades, demand too much from students, and express incorrectly in the classroom. The task of the parents is to find out with which of the teachers the child has a conflict, and at what stage it is. Eliminate it.
Relations with classmates. In the classroom, the teenager spends most of the time at school. Therefore, good relationships with classmates play a large role in a child's desire to go to school. In case of misunderstandings with classmates, not only study suffers, but the psychological state of a teenager as a whole. Parents are advised to talk with their child, then with the class teacher, and consult with a school psychologist. Maybe the child himself should change something in his behavior at school.

We've listed the main reasons teenagers might not want to learn. To understand why your child does not want to learn, try to talk to him and understand his problems.

Types of motivation

Experts divide motivation into internal and external. Intrinsic motivation is much stronger and more effective than outside motivation. It's one thing when mom and dad make you do your homework, it's another thing when you do it yourself, because you burn with an object and you know how it will come in handy in the future.

Psychologists and educators identify several types of motivation. If you understand them, it will be easier to understand what drives the child during learning.

Why extrinsic motivation doesn't work

When we say, “Do this and you will get this,” the child at first takes the promise with enthusiasm. Along with this, the instinct of self-preservation works for him.

The child begins to look not for a creative way of solving the problem, but for the most reliable and shortest one.

He asks himself: “Why take the risk and take the test yourself? It is better to write off from an excellent student, so it is more reliable. ” It turns out that there is a substitution of goals: not study for the sake of knowledge, but study for the sake of receiving an award.

Extrinsic motivation can work great, but only with intrinsic motivation. By itself, she does not move forward, but forces him to “serve the number”, to get what you want as soon as possible, cursing what you are doing for this.

Low motivation reasons

Parents who are looking for an answer to the question “how to increase motivation to study in adolescents” should ask themselves the question: what is the reason for the decrease in this very motivation in their particular case. Perhaps the whole point is as follows:

you are overly involved in the learning process, practically learning instead of your child. Psychologists hear from parents (mainly from mothers) that a son or daughter is completely incapable of doing homework on their own, that they always forget to put something in a portfolio, etc. In this case, the student does his homework only under the supervision of his mother, she also collects his portfolio. This leads to a loss of responsibility for the child;
you overload the student, not taking into account his objective abilities – choose a school with enhanced study of any subjects, send to additional classes, hire the best tutors. Thus, you strive, first of all, to satisfy your parental ambitions;
you seldom praise your child for their educational success, and as a result, their motivation to go to school is also reduced. He loses confidence in himself, his strength, does not feel your support, which is very important for him.

What affects a child's motivation to learn?

Interest. Make it clear that at each school lesson he will be told the necessary and useful information.

Perception. Someone better perceives information through sight, someone – by ear. We are all different. Therefore, parents should watch the child. Perhaps joint activities will bring great benefits.

Emotions. One of the types of motivation is emotional. This part of the child's psyche is not yet stable enough. In this case, the task of the parents will be to support the baby in his pursuit of new knowledge.

What mistakes can you make when trying to get your child to do well?

If a child is told that nothing good will come of him, this can be programmed for failure not only in school, but for the rest of his life. This lowers his self-esteem. Makes him squeezed and withdrawn.
Intimidation. This is even more difficult. Being under stress, the child will not be able to perceive information normally, nor to analyze it correctly.
Gifts for grades. The method is fraught with a lot of disadvantages. First, the habit of receiving gifts will develop very quickly. As a result, the child will try only if you promise to fulfill this or that desire. Secondly, in this case, the child is tuned in not to study, that is, to acquire new knowledge, but to receive gifts.
Continuous success. In this case, there is a risk that the child will do everything in order to gain status in society and its approval, forgetting about the emotional side of the issue.
Many additional sections and circles. Children quickly get tired when they need to constantly keep their attention in good shape and constantly receive new information. Don't plan your child's schedule as tightly as possible. He just won't have time to rest.

To help your kid do well in school, try to work out school knowledge in the form of a game. Rhyme school rules into hilarious poems. Repeat exercises in a playful way, evoke a competitive spirit.

Support your child's hobbies. Don't impose what you love. Let the baby decide for himself what is most interesting to him.

If the awards are small. Don't set your rewards too high and give gifts too often.

Take an interest in the child's knowledge, not his grades. After a day at school, ask yourself what the child has learned today. Discuss how he can apply this knowledge in practice. Evaluation is subjective, so try not to focus on the A's.

The teenager loses interest in studying, the parents are in a panic

The teenager suddenly lost interest in studying, in sports or creative pursuits. He, who used to be responsible for all activities, does not want to do anything. He does his lessons somehow, does not want to go to sports or other additional activities. His favorite activities now are to lie on the couch with a gadget, sit at the computer playing shooters, or hang out with friends on the street without doing anything special. do not leave the street, they can get lost. A familiar picture, many parents are faced with such a seemingly sudden loss of interest in everything useful and necessary. Most often, such a change occurs at 10-13 years old and mainly in boys. Girls are usually more responsible and diligent at this age.

So what can you do? How to motivate a teenager to study, to some useful activities? How to revive his interest in what will become necessary for him in adulthood? Yes, and the present teenage life can be more interesting for a child if he is passionate about something.

Incentives, how you can motivate your teenager with them

Motivation for any person, whether an adult or a teenager, appears as a result of some kind of stimulus. That is, some reason compels him to act in one direction or another.

Simple external stimuli. Now, especially in wealthy families, parents, in order to force a teenager to learn, do something extra, most often use simple external stimuli. For example, if you don't have Cs in a quarter, you’ll go with us on vacation abroad in the summer, otherwise you’ll go to the village to see your grandmother. Or, if you diligently study additional English, we will buy it (the following is a list of what the child wants to get). These external stimuli are usually short-lived. All purchases and trips are boring, and you need to constantly invent how else to motivate a teenager to study, classes,
Complex external incentives.These stimuli also act on the adolescent from the outside. But they evoke not only a simple desire, made – received. Under the influence of such a stimulus, a teenager develops an independent desire to do something, to achieve something, to strive somewhere. That is, if some external stimulus makes the child not only act mechanically, but also think, invent, and then act, this is a complex external stimulus. A bit unclear? Let me explain with an example. Two teenagers watched the movie “Rimbaud”, both loved it. One of them limited himself to buying a cassette with this film, the other wanted to become as brave, dexterous and trained as his beloved hero. He signed up for classes in some kind of martial arts, was actively engaged with pleasure, growing up, became more and more fond of his studies, even later he developed his own training system and became a popular and successful coach. This is a complex external stimulus. Complex external stimuli differ from simple ones in that they do not become boring, since they force one to think, to invent something. As a result, a person develops an interest to act further independently,
Internal incentives. This is your own desire to learn, to learn something new, to strive for something. Unfortunately, many modern adolescents, especially those from wealthy families, lack such internal incentives. Already in early childhood, they are well aware of the attractiveness of simple external stimuli, “do it – get it”, therefore they cease to strive for something of their own accord, they are infantile and passive, it is difficult to motivate them to take any independent actions.

Motivating a teenager is not an easy but solvable task

Now that we have figured out a little what motivation is, what it is, what causes it, why it is often absent in adolescents, the main question remains, how to cause it, how to motivate a teenager to study, useful activities. What you need to do so that your child has an interest in something necessary, moreover, an independent interest, so that he becomes carried away by something useful for him, not only at the moment, but also in the future. Of course, there are ways to motivate a teenager, and in principle, they are all doable. Only, you need to keep in mind that this is a constant and long-term process. Miracles happen only in fairy tales, do not expect that after 2-3 weeks of any actions you take, your offspring will be happy to “gnaw the granite of science” and enthusiastically do something interesting and useful.

Force or motivate?

When parents cannot motivate a teenager to study, they begin to force him to study. The child feels it.

Motivation for learning – the processes, methods and means of encouraging students to productive learning activities.

Parents often force younger schoolchildren to study; it is much more difficult to force adolescents. In high school, they show their character, they go against the orders of their parents. Therefore, there is another option – to motivate to learn.

Both at school and at home they say: “If you fail to pass the exam, you will not enter the university”, “If you do not get a certificate, you will go to the courtyards of revenge.” This is not motivation.

At school, in an algebra lesson, the teacher explains: “Today you will learn what a sine is. You will definitely have it in the OGE and the Unified State Exam. ” Many teenagers are familiar with this situation.

If the schools explained in a different way, then more students would be able to interest: “Do you know the game” Arkanoid? In it, a ball flies across the field and breaks everything in its path. It seems that this is easy to do on a computer, but there is a problem: the computer cannot move objects diagonally. There is no such command. For the ball to know how to fly diagonally, the computer must know the angle of incidence and calculate the sine and cosine from this angle. Today we will just find out what it is … “.

Pupils of the ninth grade my school say that learning would be a great pleasure if :

the lessons at school were more interesting;
psychological support from teachers, classmates and parents was constantly felt;
the school had more contests with valuable prizes: technical devices, monetary rewards;
had the opportunity to feel safe at school;
the opportunity was provided to talk to a school psychologist at any time;
self-government would be better developed at school;
had a trusting relationship with parents;
activities and time were properly organized;
at home there was a recreation area separate from other family members.

Often, parents motivate teenagers with money or gifts: “If you finish the year at 4 and 5, we'll buy you a new phone.” The student writes off the decision from the GDZ and gets “excellent”. Does this solve learning problems? Thus, he receives marks not for knowledge, but for work, i.e. earns them. This raises the question for parents: “I want my child to receive good grades or quality knowledge?”

You choose: “force” to learn or “motivate”.

If you chose the second option and do not know where to start, then the next section is for you.

Learning Motivation Methods

If a teenager does not want to study and you want to motivate him to study, we recommend using the following methods:

1 Try to find out the reason for the reluctance to learn. If you have a trusting relationship with your child, then he will probably share his feelings.

2 Parents and teachers to help teenagers understand the value of learning. Understand how school knowledge will be useful in life. Start talking about it only when your child is ready to hear you. If he is not in the mood or busy with his problems, then he will not be able to fully perceive you.

3 Show visual examples of people who have achieved their goals in life and those who have come to terms with their low status. Films, videos, presentations, pictures will help with this. Let the teenager answer to himself: “What will I be in the future?”

4 Your child is passionate about something – show how his hobby is related to school subjects. Likes to photograph – ask about the structure of the camera. Let him talk about the shooting process itself, about the basics of composition. Teaches you how to edit photos. Knowledge of physics and drawing will help here. If the child does not yet own editing, then he will need the knowledge of graphic editors. This will help the subject of computer science. If he wants to travel abroad in the future, he will not be able to do without knowledge of languages.

5 Maintain the child's passion in any area. He is fond of computers – tell us more about it, share your own experience. Tell us about your acquaintances who work in this field. Attend university open days that train computer scientists. Go with your child to events, lectures, master classes from successful people, watch educational videos on the Internet, etc.

6 If a teenager is not addicted to anything and refuses to learn, then try to apply labor. The Russian educator, teacher and writer A.S. Makarenko spoke about him: “Diligence and the ability to work are not given to a child by nature, but are brought up in him.” Give your child the opportunity to work several full shifts in a specialty (with an appropriate salary) that does not require qualifications: salesman, telephone operator, waiter, courier. Or give the job yourself. For example, to sit for a day with a friend's child or cook dinner for 20 people.

So the teenager will understand that any job is hard. For a dream job you need knowledge. If you want to make a lot of money and have a job that is fun, you have to learn. One of my acquaintances, when he was in 9th grade, did not know what he wanted and was not interested in anything. After graduating from high school, he went to work in a car wash. After two years, I realized that I didn't want to work like that all my life. Now he is in the last year of the aviation school and plans to become a pilot.

7 Make it clear to the child that you want to help him: hire a tutor, talk to teachers, enroll in courses of interest, etc.

8 Respect the adolescent's opinions and choices. Affects everything: hobbies, clothing choices, food preferences, free time. He considers himself already an adult, capable of making decisions. Let him learn to be responsible for them.

9 Praise your child and enjoy their success together. Teenagers are no longer small children, but at this age they need the approval of adults, especially parents.

I advise parents not to put pressure on the teenager, but to support. He does not want to study now – later he will decide on a profession and understand what he needs in life. The main thing is that the chosen business should bring happiness.

Most of the above methods are now used by teachers in my school and give positive results.

Remember that motivation is a long process. It can last from 2-3 days to 1 year. Be patient.

How can this be done? Moving from words to practice

Psychologist's advice is very helpful in understanding the question of “how to motivate a teenager to study.” To begin with, all parents need to understand that coercion and blackmail have the opposite effect. I’ll buy a phone. “But learning” out of the box “is always not interesting and causes a violent internal protest. Before starting to motivate, remember how often you pressured the teenager and does he perceive you as a threat., first of all, it is necessary to regain trust again, otherwise all efforts will be in vain.

So, we proceed in steps:

We gain the trust of our own child. This is not easy to achieve, especially if the child is used to constant threats and lectures. Try to have a gentle conversation and ask about subjects that interest him and why. Do not impose your opinion in any way. Just listen. The child should see that you are on his side and will not overpersuade.
We find out hobbies and interests, even if there is absolutely no time for this. It is not in vain that we draw your attention to the lack of time. We are used to the fact that children grow up and learn on their own. The time when you happily chatted about everything with your rosy-cheeked baby is over. But you have to find it again for your child. The hobbies of a teenager can easily be tied to school subjects – computer science, English, literature, etc. It is necessary to casually throw information about things that interest him. Does your child spend a lot of time at the computer? So tell him who and how creates these games, how much he earns and what you need to know for this if your child suddenly wants to become a great programmer. A similar logical chain can be built on the basis of any hobby of a teenager.
Show by example. Children are a reflection of their parents. If the mother and father are constantly learning and improving, the son or daughter will subconsciously reach for them. The child will love the learning process itself, not meaningless cramming and “because you have to learn.” Tell him what you saw and where you were, show your enthusiasm for learning and mention how you achieved it. All this will soon bear fruit.
Knowledge is obtained not only within the walls of the school. Our educational system is not perfect. Learning is a constant control and load of various knowledge with countless requirements. Ideally, it is impossible to know all objects. Work with your child for non-grading and homework-free educational options. Enroll a teenager in circles according to his interests. For example, in the school of robotics and modeling, at the same time there will be a love for physics and mathematics.
Instill independence. It is the ability to take responsibility for your actions. Inform your child that he alone will be responsible, not you. In a situation where there is a direct threat to his health and life, then parents need to intervene. However, bad grades in the certificate are not such a threat. A teenager must realize that a reluctance to study can lead to the fact that he will not go to college, or even stay for the second year. And in this case, only he will be to blame.
Apply occupational therapy. This can only be done in difficult situations. If a teenager is absolutely not interested in anything and is lazy, deprive him of his pocket money and arrange a job with a small salary during the holidays. For example, a seller in an ice cream stand, a courier, a posting ad. Let him feel all the “charm” of an eight-hour working day and a small salary. Explain that because he does not want to study, he risks doing low-skill work and counting pennies all his life.

Such advice from a psychologist will help you to properly motivate your teenager to study. The main thing is to be patient, as the result will not show itself immediately. Don't push or scold your child. And how to talk if you don't have enough nerves ?!

So, we proceed in steps:

We gain the trust of our own child. This is not easy to achieve, especially if the child is used to constant threats and lectures. Try to have a gentle conversation and ask about subjects that interest him and why. Do not impose your opinion in any way. Just listen. The child should see that you are on his side and will not overpersuade.
We find out hobbies and interests, even if there is absolutely no time for this. It is not in vain that we draw your attention to the lack of time. We are used to the fact that children grow up and learn on their own. The time when you happily chatted about everything with your rosy-cheeked baby is over. But you have to find it again for your child. The hobbies of a teenager can easily be tied to school subjects – computer science, English, literature, etc. It is necessary to casually throw information about things that interest him. Does your child spend a lot of time at the computer? So tell him who and how creates these games, how much he earns and what you need to know for this if your child suddenly wants to become a great programmer. A similar logical chain can be built on the basis of any hobby of a teenager.
Show by example. Children are a reflection of their parents. If the mother and father are constantly learning and improving, the son or daughter will subconsciously reach for them. The child will love the learning process itself, not meaningless cramming and “because you have to learn.” Tell him what you saw and where you were, show your enthusiasm for learning and mention how you achieved it. All this will soon bear fruit.
Knowledge is obtained not only within the walls of the school. Our educational system is not perfect. Learning is a constant control and load of various knowledge with countless requirements. Ideally, it is impossible to know all objects. Work with your child for non-grading and homework-free educational options. Enroll a teenager in circles according to his interests. For example, in the school of robotics and modeling, at the same time there will be a love for physics and mathematics.
Instill independence. It is the ability to take responsibility for your actions. Inform your child that he alone will be responsible, not you. In a situation where there is a direct threat to his health and life, then parents need to intervene. However, bad grades in the certificate are not such a threat. A teenager must realize that a reluctance to study can lead to the fact that he will not go to college, or even stay for the second year. And in this case, only he will be to blame.
Apply occupational therapy. This can only be done in difficult situations. If a teenager is absolutely not interested in anything and is lazy, deprive him of his pocket money and arrange a job with a small salary during the holidays. For example, a seller in an ice cream stand, a courier, a posting ad. Let him feel all the “charm” of an eight-hour working day and a small salary. Explain that because he does not want to study, he risks doing low-skill work and counting pennies all his life.

Rules for communicating with a teenager on an unloved study topic

Puberty is a difficult time. At this moment, the child rethinks many values, begins to know himself, parents cease to be ideal, and study is relegated to the background.

Very often, teenagers start skipping classes and do not learn to spite their parents. What they want to prove is known only to them! In such situations, you must adhere to some rules:

be respectful of your child and talk to him on an equal footing;
agree on what he can do and what is strictly prohibited;
listen to the child's criticism, ask him to argue his opinion;
discuss the importance of education and school;
ask daily how he is doing at school;
talk about the progress and achievements of the child, praise him for it;
find out what task was given today, if necessary – help;
don't get hung up on bad grades;
support your teenager if he or she fails a test or exam;
if you have serious educational problems, hire a tutor;
set clear goals for him: what he wants to achieve and what knowledge needs to be mastered for this;
set the deadlines for the implementation of this goal (by what date you need to learn, or correct);
as far as possible, tell us about the importance of training (what is it for, how it will be useful in life);
track the results of your studies;
establish methods of encouragement, praise only for the cause, this stimulates motivation;
do not make excessive demands;
do not compare academic achievement with your teen's classmates;
just love your child.

Children become purposeful and responsible people if they are motivated for continuous development and learning. Every conscientious parent, using the above information, can create a desire in a teenager to learn.

No matter how many conversations you talk about studying, praise is more important

What are our children learning for? To learn Ohm's Law or to distinguish a participle from a participle? Not! They do not need these laws for a hundred years. They learn for parental appreciation and praise. They want to know for sure: dad and mom are proud of me, I will not let them down.

Don't lecture, rely on curiosity. This will make the study attractive and the range of interests will expand all the time. And it is extremely important not to make a kind of cult out of study. In the life of a teenager, in addition to lessons, there should be friends, hobbies, sports, communication. Only sincere participation can motivate a teenager to study. The psychologist's advice that you have learned and your ardent desire to turn your child into an excellent student will help you figure out a difficult case.

Rules for communicating with a teenager on an unloved study topic

Puberty is a difficult time. At this moment, the child rethinks many values, begins to know himself, parents cease to be ideal, and study is relegated to the background.

Very often, teenagers start skipping classes and do not learn to spite their parents. What they want to prove is known only to them! In such situations, you must adhere to some rules:

be respectful of your child and talk to him on an equal footing;
agree on what he can do and what is strictly prohibited;
listen to the child's criticism, ask him to argue his opinion;
discuss the importance of education and school;
ask daily how he is doing at school;
talk about the progress and achievements of the child, praise him for it;
find out what task was given today, if necessary – help;
don't get hung up on bad grades;
support your teenager if he or she fails a test or exam;
if you have serious educational problems, hire a tutor;
set clear goals for him: what he wants to achieve and what knowledge needs to be mastered for this;
set the deadlines for the implementation of this goal (by what date you need to learn, or correct);
as far as possible, tell us about the importance of training (what is it for, how it will be useful in life);
track the results of your studies;
establish methods of encouragement, praise only for the cause, this stimulates motivation;
do not make excessive demands;
do not compare academic achievement with your teen's classmates;
just love your child.

How to get a younger student interested in studying

It is necessary to stimulate interest in learning among younger students, taking into account their age characteristics. Very often, parents whose children have begun to learn less well try to draw in front of them a prospect of a future life: if a student gets good grades, he will grow up to be a wealthy, respected person. And vice versa – if it starts to get bad, it will sweep the streets.

It should be said right away: this method does not work with children of 7-12 years old. The prospect of adulthood is still too distant for them, they cannot fully comprehend the words of their parents. With children, you need to use another method – gradually create and increase learning motivation. Psychologists suggest taking into account several rules in this case:

do not force. Coercing in every possible way to do homework, accompanying it with small scandals – means to cause a stable aversion to learning in a primary school student. It would be much more correct to confidentially talk about the fact that there are school rules that are not so complicated. You can try to imagine with him how happy his teacher will be from the fact that he did his homework, etc .;
try to show your child that learning is not boring, but rather fun and exciting. Do not just force him to thoughtlessly learn the given material – ask him interesting questions and teach him to look for answers to them yourself. Tell me how and where it is better to do it (books, internet). This will contribute to the fact that the “homework” will acquire a certain meaning for him;
praise any successes. Be generous with praise if you want to make you want to learn. At this age, a little man needs his parents, teachers, other adults to notice all his successes and rejoice with him;
If you see that the student is not taking up homework because he is afraid of not coping, help him a little. You can reformulate the task slightly (while maintaining the meaning), or break it up into parts. And then it will be easier for your baby to cope with the task in stages, he will enjoy the fact that he was able to do it. Well, of course, don't forget to praise him for that;
take advantage of the “interrupted action” effect. It consists in the fact that, most often, the unfinished action of a person attracts, and he seeks to complete it. Therefore, when you see that the son or daughter has lost interest in completing the assignment, offer to interrupt and do something more interesting. According to psychologists, any person will still strive to complete what he started;
try the green pen method invented by a progressive mother of a first grader. It is as follows: you need to emphasize the best places in the baby's work with green paste, so that he concentrates on his successes, and not on mistakes;
finish tasks on a pleasant note. Try not to let the child run out of steam while doing his homework, otherwise next time he will start doing it with less enthusiasm. It is not in your power to change the school curriculum, but it is quite possible to properly organize the student's time at home. Teach him to set aside a certain deadline for completing the assignment, and adhere to this deadline.

1 Set realistic goals and specific objectives

The child must clearly understand what is required of him. Agree, the goal of “learning English over the summer” looks vague and somewhat daunting. The child will start looking for excuses to evade, and it is already more difficult to refuse specifics. For example, if you offer to do several exercises and learn 5-10 new words each day of summer vacation, this task is perceived by the child as feasible and not burdensome. He will sit down at the books, where with a greater desire than if you forced him with a threat: “Until you learn twenty pages from Bonk, you will not go for a walk.” Break difficult tasks into many small ones, and move from easy to difficult, rewarding the child for successfully completing each step.

2 Treat your grades correctly

Two, three, four and five show only how the child coped with a specific task, learned or did not learn the topic, but in no case characterize him as a person. Orient your little one to individual achievement so that tomorrow's work is better than what he did yesterday. Focus the child's attention on his successes, on what he has learned, help to apply new skills in everyday life, create situations where the child will again feel successful and knowledgeable.

3 Remember why you need to learn

The question “Why do we need this?” can often be heard from schoolchildren of any age. But if high school students are aimed at admission, then younger children sometimes sincerely do not understand why they need this literature or biology. With your child, write as long as possible a list of reasons why you need to go to school and listen carefully to the teacher.

4 Make you feel responsible for your studies

Gradually instill in the child that he himself should be responsible for the grades received and the quality of his knowledge. Do not take complete control of your homework, do not panic because of sudden failures and do not rush to sort things out with the “evil” teacher. Let your child know that you are always there and ready to help, but he should rely, first of all, only on his own strength. Being proud of his independence and success will help him move on.

5 Follow the interests of the child

A common mistake is to force the baby to go to all the circles in a row, even if he does not have a soul for some of them. Do not scold him if yesterday he still went to art school, but today he decided to take up music. The child enjoys trying new activities and looking for himself. On the contrary, show him various interesting activities, go together to master classes, scientific quests, films, add books that may captivate him. Dissatisfaction with the frequent change of interests is sometimes due to the rather high price of the necessary equipment: but again, no one forces you to immediately buy a bass guitar when you can borrow an ordinary acoustic one from friends.

6 Put the whip aside, get the gingerbread

Children react rather sluggishly to punishment, because they expect a similar reaction from their parents to the next deuce. Of course, you have to show that bad behavior or poor grades are upsetting you, but you don't need to go overboard either. Try to praise your child more for any good results. What it is? Versatile interests, no tardiness, exemplary behavior, participation in school activities, attendance at electives. In this case, the child will associate educational responsibilities with positive emotions: joy, success, comfort. He will begin to go to school with pleasure, because his brain will already learn to rejoice at new achievements.

7 Teach to see the positive in the given lessons

Demonstrate how to make a boring subject addictive. For example, you need to make a report on literature or music – help your child find an interesting topic, for example, the story of Harry Potter or rock music. Geometry is not given? But she studies beautiful figures. Don't remember the dates of important battles? But the history textbook looks like an exciting novel, or let's pretend that we are participants in these events. You are looking for more positive moments, and memory, and thinking, and imagination will be connected there.

8 Teach your child to love himself

Introduce a reward system, teach your child to praise himself for victories of any scale and every job done. Moreover, the reward can be expressed in the usual verbal praise, friends, classmates, respect for the teacher. Our brain is designed in such a way that if we receive encouragement for some actions, then more energy and hormones of happiness are automatically released to perform the same or similar actions, even if this work has yet to be done!

How to encourage your child to learn English

To develop an interest in studying a foreign language, you can use the following instructions from psychologists:

he probably has his favorite films, cartoons, which he enjoys watching. You can find them in English, and invite him to see them in the original. The same technique can be applied to books;
try not to speak out in front of a student in such a way that “I have lived my whole life without knowing English – and nothing …”. On the contrary, you can say that you do not know a foreign language, but regret it, because you cannot try yourself in a new, modern profession, in which there is nothing to do without English;
Set age-appropriate goals for the student. It will be clearer for a primary school student to realize the benefits of knowing a foreign language if you say that this will help him read the newest fairy tales and watch interesting cartoons that have not yet been translated into Russian. The teenager will be interested in the possibility of a trip to a language camp abroad, as well as the fact that knowing English, he will be able to understand what his favorite performers are singing about, what famous personalities tell about themselves in interviews, etc.

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