What to do if a man called you by someone else’s name

In the life of many women, an unpleasant situation happened when a beloved man unexpectedly made a reservation and called his chosen one a completely different name. Amazement, shock, the desire to have a "debriefing" or just take offense are a common consequence in such scenarios. However, what to do in reality if an unfamiliar appeal was addressed to you?

Is it worth it to cut off the shoulder, feeling offended, said a practicing psychologist and sexologist Alexandra Miller.

In her opinion, in such a situation, you need to act reasonably and turn on the surveillance mode, and not a surprise attack. It is likely that your man is simply too busy with work, and therefore his head is clearly loaded with large amounts of information, including names.

In fact, I once came up with a name that I don't even know. For some reason, she called the person Nikita, and everyone was shocked, including me. It happens, our brain fails us. And if, besides this fact, there is nothing else that could alert, then, of course, you should not chop off your shoulder. I think all reasonable people understand this.

The problem arises when a woman's single case turns into real paranoia: she looks closely and listens to her partner in an attempt to convict her of infidelity. Of course, sometimes this is not unreasonable and the fact of infidelity does take place. However, most often, the expert assures us, we find ourselves in the first scenario, where suspicions are born on empty ground.

By such behavior, a woman provokes a man to leave the relationship, because it is simply impossible to endure. There are abusers, and this is also a kind of psychological abuse. Therefore, you need to keep track of whether your relationship is healthy or not and what is generally happening with your situation specifically. Because the relationship also depends on the state in which it is located.

The reservation situation, while not a one-time thing, is essentially a side effect of the problems in the relationship, and you need to deal with them, and not with the confusion in the names that the partner allows. And if your instinct tells you that something more is behind a random mistake, take a closer look at your own pair.

You need to keep your finger on the pulse. If the partner treats you coldly, if you do not feel any return, and in the relationship you constantly do more than the partner, then this is the root of the problem. You constantly want to sort things out, but he doesn't want anything anymore: he constantly lingers somewhere, doesn’t initiate any meetings, doesn’t arrange leisure in any way, doesn’t support morally and doesn’t take any responsibility for the relationship at all.