What is sexting and how to do it
Sexting is the perfect foreplay. It's a fun, flirty way to stay in touch with your partner that keeps you hooked all day long and adds a bit of adventure, which in turn recreates the feeling of love and romance.
For those who don't know, sexting is a type of sexual communication that has replaced phone sex. Back in 2011, the Oxford Dictionary listed "sexting" as one of the zeitgeist words. And in the era of a pandemic and total lockdowns, the ability to conduct correspondence of this nature is an important and almost indispensable skill. For beginners and those looking for guidance, we've put together the top 14 rules for perfect pen pals.
Content
1 Time is everything
It's best to know what your partner is up to when you want to text him something intimate. If he has dinner with his family or has a weekly boss meeting, this is not the best time to start sexting. If you're not sure what your partner is up to, you can send a simple "Hey, are you busy?" message to see if it's the right time to flirt.
2 take your time
Sexting is all about preparation. Start a conversation by flirting. For example, by sending a selfie of your cleavage with a simple message “Hello to you", you can grab the attention of the interlocutor and at the same time let you know what this topic can turn into if he wants to respond. You can also start a dialogue with the message “I keep thinking about how hot this night was” and gradually develop it.
3 Remember that you play a role
When you start sexting, you must remember that you are in control and have a role to play. Your role is that of a playful partner who is excited and ready for something frivolous. Your words, photos and voice messages can be used by your partner to draw a fantasy and arouse him to the point of satisfaction.
4 Don't go too far out of your comfort zone
Do only what is comfortable for you. Sexting can be as innocent as "can't wait to make love to you tonight" or as risqué as a nude selfie. Start with something that makes you feel a little uncomfortable, but doesn't make you run and hide.
5 Be mindful of the photos you send
Of course, it is only your choice whether to send any of your photos or not. However, in the case of a new relationship, or if you don't know your pen partner very well, you should consider framing your photos so that identifiable features (such as your face) are out of frame.
6 Put some effort into visual design
Angles are key when photographing sexting. Visuals are the bread and butter of sexual messages and can make or break an impression. Take pictures from such angles that only the erogenous zones of the body (mouth, neck, bust, hips, abdomen, legs, pelvic area) are visible. How provocative your photos will be is up to you.
7 Know the "Sexy Emoji Language"
Using emoji as a sexual innuendo can show your intentions without words. Eggplant and banana are often used to represent penis, peach represents buttocks, sticking out tongue emoji is desire, and raindrops are wet or semen. Knowing the emoji sex code can help you follow the code of conduct if you're texting in public.
8 Have fun with dirty talk
Dirty talk is the guiding star of sexting. The words you use in your posts paint a picture of an unfolding fantasy. You can describe what you are wearing, you can ask your partner for lewd photos to compliment their body and talk about the lewd things you will do to them. You can describe how your body reacts to what he writes to you. Your words may also contain instructions about what you want your partner to do to themselves while fantasizing about you.
9 Don't Be Afraid To Be Open About Your Fantasies
It's not always easy to talk to your partner about what you want to try in bed when they're right in front of you, so sexting is a great opportunity to share your fantasies. There's less pressure here when no one looks back at you.
10 It's all about the details
The more specific your sexual details are, the better you and your partner will be able to imagine what you fantasize about, and the easier it will be to carry on a conversation.
11 Ask questions
Don't be afraid to ask questions during sexting. After all, it's a conversation. By asking sexual questions, you can easily find out what your partner is thinking. The questions can also help you paint a vivid image of his fantasy in your mind. Use the following sample questions to get you started: “What is your fantasy? What part of me do you want to see? Are you excited now? How do you want to play with me? How would you like me to turn you on?
12 Sexting doesn't have to be just text and visual messages
You can also turn on the voice recording feature. Do it as naturally as possible. Sometimes all it takes for a partner to get turned on is listening to you play with yourself. Close your eyes and imagine your partner doing all the things you love with you. Record the sounds you would make and send them out with confidence.
13 Memes And Gifs Are Welcome Too
Don't underestimate the power of sexy memes or GIFs that fit your idea of sex. Use them in addition to what you have already written. They add more content to the conversation and give you a break from the need to be original.
14 Have fun
Sexting is a form of teasing where the power is yours. Enjoy it!