Nine Signs of a Psychopathic Partner

From all sides we are told what abuse is, and taught to resist manipulation, aggression and deceit. But still, often we find ourselves in a relationship that is better to end as soon as possible. How to recognize a partner with abnormal behavior? Tells a certified psychologist and psychotherapist Kuralai.

It is important to understand that a tyrant, an abuser and a psychopath will always be found if a victim is ready for him. Relations with an abuser are always codependent, in which one has a need to be unhappy and offended, and the other has a need to offend. Signals about the abnormality of what is happening are visible to everyone, except for those who are inside the relationship. Partners prefer not to notice anything or pretend that everything is fine, although those around them can see with the naked eye that the relationship is unhealthy. And this can apply to both romantic relationships in a couple, and any other interactions between people – at work, in the family, in friendship. And a psychopath is not always a man, as we used to think. Both a nice girl and an elderly lady can turn out to be a psychological abuser.

What are the signs of a psychopathic partner?

A daring character, the ability to run into quarrels and conflicts for no reason, the desire to show all their strength and power unnecessarily. Such manifestations in the character of a man, girls are often mistaken for brutality and charisma and admire them. Often such a person was engaged in aggressive sports (wrestling, boxing), more than once he got himself and knows how to professionally cause damage to others.

Impulsive nature and unexpected actions. A new acquaintance on a second date declares that he is in love with you, wants to get married urgently, have children and live together all his life. At the beginning of a relationship, this can delight and excite, but it soon becomes clear that the partner makes loud promises, it is easy to take him weakly, but then the enthusiasm quickly subsides.

Sharp unreasonable movements. On a walk, a person suddenly suddenly kicks a stone, can hit a wall during a quarrel, he has a need to cause damage to objects that do not interfere and do not provoke aggression in any way.

Inadequate assessments of the actions of other people. A partner may say something unpleasant about the most normal act of even their loved one, condemn friends and their life decisions, speak rudely about strangers. His estimates and characteristics seem strange and incomprehensible to you.

Growing jealousy. At first, it may be easy control disguised as care, but gradually the situation becomes unhealthy. The partner tightens the screws, forbids communication with people he doesn't like, throws tantrums for no reason, checks your phone, calls every five minutes and is jealous of every pillar.

Lack of empathy. In a partner’s conversation, sadistic jokes slip through, he watches himself or sends you unpleasant pictures and videos. As a child, he had episodes of animal abuse, he bullied peers at school and mocked teachers.

Sudden mood swings. In a second, from an ideal, silky man, he turns into an angry aggressor with bulging eyes and pulsating veins, and just as quickly returns to normal.

Difficult childhood, difficult relationships in the family. Often such people saw in childhood the cruelty of their parents towards each other, they were very frightened and hid these experiences in the depths of their souls. The unexpressed childhood fear of an adult man turns into bursts of unreasonable aggression.

The desire to remake a partner for themselves, forcing them to a certain way of life. Often temperamental oriental people with hot blood behave this way. They want to see a quiet, silent, weak-willed partner nearby and consistently change a person for themselves: his habits, thinking, even wardrobe. They either do not tolerate independent people, or they break them.