Sexologist debunked popular myths about sex

The intimate life of a man and a woman often causes close attention. All because it is not customary to spread about it. Knowledge is not inherited, it can only be acquired through experience. The maximum theory is frivolous stories shared by friends and acquaintances. But how much truth is in them – big

question. This is how legends are born, which then turn into false beliefs, and many blindly believe them. They do not have the best effect not only on the quality of intimate life, but also on the health of partners. Sexologist Vitaly Azurov tells about what ideas are long overdue.

Myth 1. Good lovers are not made, but born.

There are many persistent theories about "body memory", that some people feel the body of a lover and others do not, and that this skill is a gift sent from above by the gods. Well, if you weren't lucky and didn’t give it, then you shouldn’t try. Nothing will come of it anyway. Expert commentary: “It is impossible to be born a sex guru, Vitaly Azurov is convinced. “This is pure myth. We all start our journey young and inexperienced, but then the combination of both good theory and practice is important. The ideal option is to read the relevant literature. Fortunately, today it is not in short supply. And you still need to check the knowledge gained empirically, in practice. It is impossible to learn to be a skilled gentleman only in theory. It is equally important to discuss everything with a partner, not to be shy to start talking “about it", not to blush and turn pale if asked about it. At first, such dialogues can be embarrassing, this is normal, but over time you will learn to discuss your feelings and sexual fantasies. In general, you need to understand that in intimate life, everything is rarely smooth and “like clockwork”. Everyone has ups and downs. Today you are an enchanting lover, and tomorrow you are a gray mouse and that's fine. Treat sex as creativity – try to be all the time in search of new stimuli and desires. Remember, if you want to be a master in your field, it is not enough to learn something once in your youth, you need to continue to learn new things constantly. Moreover, for this it is absolutely not necessary to change many partners, just one is enough to have an interest and a desire to comprehend the science of love. Everyone has ups and downs. Today you are an enchanting lover, and tomorrow you are a gray mouse and that's fine. Treat sex as creativity – try to be all the time in search of new stimuli and desires. Remember, if you want to be a master in your field, it is not enough to learn something once in your youth, you need to continue to learn new things constantly. Moreover, for this it is absolutely not necessary to change many partners, just one is enough to have an interest and a desire to comprehend the science of love. Everyone has ups and downs. Today you are an enchanting lover, and tomorrow you are a gray mouse and that's fine. Treat sex as creativity – try to be all the time in search of new stimuli and desires. Remember, if you want to be a master in your field, it is not enough to learn something once in your youth, you need to continue to learn new things constantly. Moreover, for this it is absolutely not necessary to change many partners, just one is enough to have an interest and a desire to comprehend the science of love.

Myth 2. Orgasms don't matter to women.

Previously, it was believed that sex is needed primarily by a man. And for a woman, it is optional. Hence the stable stereotype that a partner may want or not. For her, there is no benefit. Only if there is a desire to “make happy” the spouse. Specialist comment: “If you hit history, then before sex was really primarily an action necessary for the birth of a new life,” explains Vitaly Azurov. – The orgasm of a woman in this case was not taken into account, it was only important that the husband reached the peak of pleasure. But the pleasure of the wife is nothing more than a bonus. Now time has changed, researchers have long ago proved that the fairer sex is able to receive no less deep pleasure. But in many respects it depends on the actions of the partner. They are compared with playing the violin – in the skillful hands of a virtuoso you will hear a wonderful melody of love, and in the hands of an ignoramus only cacophony. There is, of course, a certain percentage of women who by nature cannot achieve pleasure, but it is microscopically small. The only thing that cannot be disagreed with is that ladies need a little more time to get excited. The partner will help in this chosen one, if he pays more attention to foreplay, foreplay. And not just two or three kisses, but really a portion of tenderness. Another point is too frequent change of position. At heart, every man is an experimenter, which is why he strives to get pleasant sensations in different ways. But for a mistress, such a “dance” is only a minus. The rhythm gets lost, she does not have time to feel the full depth of sensations. And most importantly – a trusting relationship with the chosen one, so that she can tell you what kind of caresses and positions she would like, what pace and depth of penetration turn on the most. Yes, this will require patience, but even multiple orgasms can be a reward.

Myth 3. To master the theory, it is enough to watch films for adults.

Hot movies have been popular for decades. In every house, if desired, you can find a couple of frank films. All the wisdom of love is explained here simply and most importantly, in a visual form. Comment by a specialist: “The purpose of this” creativity “is not our education at all, but only the management of arousal,” Vitaly Azurov is sure. – You will be shown enough for the blood to rush to the intimate organs, and then, if desired, you either end the viewing with a discharge or continue love games. However, such pictures have as much in common with reality as Indian cinema has with our reality. Excessively picky examination of "strawberries" leads to the emergence of complexes. In the frame are specially selected actors who are hired, including according to their physical parameters. They specifically work for the camera and make the appropriate sounds, often play pleasure .. In real life, everything is completely different, but for real. But the best way to learn high-quality sexual relationships is by receiving feedback from a partner.

Myth 4. Each person has "buttons", by pressing which you can bring to the peak of pleasure.

If with men everything is more or less simple and understandable, then lovers are constantly in search of female erogenous zones. Oh, how nice it would be if there was a “lever”, pulling which, the excitement would be guaranteed! Specialist comment: “There is a certain idea about the classic set of erogenous zones,” Vitaly Azurov continues to dispel the myths. – Moreover, those areas are usually noted that, according to statistics, for the most part have a special sensitivity. But far from everyone. This is only the initial hint, which, as it were, hints to us – "try to stroke here." If there is no reaction, do not stubbornly continue to rub and pull. Most likely, your chosen one or chosen one has a different scheme. Your task is to find it. This, by the way,

Myth 5. The longer the foreplay lasts, the brighter the sensations will be.

It is believed that the one who keeps his partner at the peak of excitement for a long time is skillful. By slowing down, then adding heat, you help to achieve the most vivid sensations. Specialist comment: “Of course, the ability to caress and give tenderness to each other is fundamental for intimate pleasures,” says Vitaly Azurov. – But it’s completely inappropriate to set any limits by the minute. Of course, if you were able to reach the peak of pleasure in the first two or three minutes, most likely your emotions will be superficial. Traditionally, intimacy is considered complete, which includes all stages – foreplay, caresses, an increase in excitement and the culmination itself. Moreover, all phases should be extended in time and the score should be kept for minutes, and not for seconds. But here it is important not to overdo it. If you repeatedly hold back your excitement, then it is difficult to complete the process by discharging. Therefore, it is recommended not to drag out the night of love, or at least not to provoke to the boiling point many times and often make short temporary pauses.