3 basic techniques for good flirting

The language of flirting is the most common language of relationships between a man and a woman. There are those who own it by nature, but most need lessons. The expert revealed three secret ways of good flirting that will help you easily win the heart of the man you like.

The degree to which you can determine whether a flirting was successful or escalated into an awkward situation is your confidence in yourself and in what you are doing. Imagine the situation: you were walking past a table in a restaurant and, accidentally stumbling, fell on your knees to a stranger. To take a back seat, to apologize crumpled and leave is an example of bad flirting, it will become good if you smile in the same situation, say: “People who say that women do not fall from the sky are lying! One fell down." You can flirt with anyone – from a girlfriend to a cloakroom attendant and a taxi driver, with any person of any gender.

There is a concept of subtle or inconspicuous flirting, which leaves behind an understatement, and the subject has a question: “Am I really hinted at something, or did it seem?" In this case, the person will constantly think about you. This technique works well for those who practice a lot to get started. In this article, we will share basic techniques that will work on any man.

Technique #1: Create Intrigue

As soon as you create intrigue, the person becomes interested in what will happen next. This motivates him to stay in communication with you until it is revealed (secret: you can never reveal it). The intrigue can be around him and around you. The first case is when you are little known and, perhaps, as a person you are not very interesting to him yet. For example, to attract his attention, you can tell a story in a company and casually note: “By the way, when I was walking with Katya, she told SUCH about Igor!”. And keep talking like nothing happened.

On dating sites, you can start a dialogue with intrigue or add it at some point. For example: “It can't be, it’s you! I've been told a lot about you"; "You were a star in some circles a couple (weeks, months, years) ago." For all questions that relate to what you have in mind, promise to answer at the meeting, and on it – in every possible way avoid answering. At the end, you can not reveal the intrigue in any way, or say something like: “They told me that you are a tough guy, but you don’t have enough women next to you”; “I messed up, it seems it’s not you”; “I found out that you have been waiting for a long time when I will appear in your life.” If you understand the horoscope or any typing, then the intrigue can end with the fact that by his zodiac sign / personality type you found out that he is … And list his positive qualities.

The intrigue around you will work if you even know each other a little. You can add something like this to the conversation: “I have a big secret that I have not told anyone yet, but I think I can open up to you.” After that, pause, in which, as it were, you collect your thoughts, but in the end you change your mind about telling this secret to the last. In the end, if you have it, you can tell it or come up with something stupid.

Tactic #2: Deficit yourself

When you don’t finish your favorite dessert, it leaves a feeling of dissatisfaction, after which you just want to break off another piece. Deficiency of oneself is about not dissolving in a man. You should not talk to him for hours on the phone, you have something to do. No need to run to meet him every time he suddenly gets bored. Leave dates at the peak of communication. At the moment when you want to spend the whole night with him, walking until dawn. In order to rationally maintain a deficit of yourself, it would be nice to have hobbies, hobbies and work that you enjoy.

If you live together, then find time to be without him – go for a walk with your friends and do not tell what happened there. Set aside at least an hour a week for yourself to do things that you don't want him to bother you with. You can go to a bar, and when you return, create an intrigue that you will never reveal: “Oh my God, this happened there without you.”

Technique #3: Nonverbal flirting

The most important part of communication is that we do not speak in words: gestures, posture, intonation. But paramount in non-verbal flirting is touching and looking. The most successful, in my opinion, are the views of the “cat” or “dog”. For a natural cat look, look at your man and think of the dirtiest things you would like to do to him. You can practice in front of a mirror. Try lowering your head, looking up, relaxing your upper eyelids, and smiling. The doggy look is when you think about how incredible and caring he is. This is a more open look that shows that you trust the person. Tilt your head to the side and expose your neck, open your eyes wide, you can raise your eyebrows a little. Imagine how a dog looks at its owner, and try to repeat.

Gesticulation should be smooth and soft. You can gently touch your neck, décolleté, wind your hair around your finger. If he allows you to touch him, then gently pat him on the shoulder during funny jokes or, as if by chance, put your hand on him for a second, or you can say that his eyelash has fallen and carefully remove it. Initiate light, fluttering touches. It will be cool to go on a scary quest together. In moments of fear, hold on to his hand, hug and cuddle. So you can not only get closer to him, but also experience joint emotions that will bring you closer.