10 Signs Your Partner Still Hasn’t Forgotten His Ex

We all experience breakups in different ways, but it can be a little worrisome when your partner doesn’t seem to have completely forgotten their exes. How can we really understand this?

They say that parting is a bad omen. Many "superstitious" men perceive this phrase as a guide to action. Therefore, after the breakup, they maintain a connection with the former – mental or physical. Even if this connection is implicit and the other side does not encourage it, this is unlikely to console the current passion. Psychologist-constellation Yulia Khadartseva has collected for you the alarming bells of the fact that the partner has not yet let go of the past.

I take everything with me: what are the dangers of romantic comebacks

One foot in yesterday – this is what they say about people who pull past relationships into the present. Most often, this is the behavior of men who run from one union to another. But there is nothing good in a quick change of partners. After all, in fact, we are not running from the past, but from ourselves. From the fact that we are hurt, offended, from the anger that we feel towards our former lover. And such a man can be terribly afraid of loneliness: he does not even allow the thought that he can be left alone, because it will hit his inner self like that. Although in essence it is only a matter of self-confidence, which is important to restore, but not at the expense of new relationships. In addition, an unresolved gap can provoke romantic comebacks: a man will remember his ex-lover again and again, which will cause psychological harm to the current girlfriend. And even if there are no obvious comebacks, she may be tormented by doubts: “Is he sure he forgot her?" Therefore, the most important recommendation for male jumpers: do not fly from flower to flower. Give yourself time to recover from the breakup and enter a new relationship with a clear head and a free heart.

Signs that he is mentally still with his ex

1. The partner somehow triggers on the former. It doesn’t matter what emotions we are talking about – positive or negative – all this is a wake-up call for you. If he is angry with the former, expresses a negative opinion about her, if he turns on the emotional background when he talks about the ex-partner, most likely he has not forgotten her.
2. He monitors her life: he has not unfollowed her on social networks, he regularly views her photos, activities, and somehow comments on it. This is a clear sign that a past relationship is not over.
3. He compares you to his ex over and over again. And it doesn’t matter in whose favor the comparison is: whether it says that you are identical in a bad or good sense. It is important that she is still present in his thoughts.
4. Her things remained in his space, joint photos, some gifts that stand in prominent places, and he is not ready to say goodbye to them.
5. She remained on the list of his so-called "friends". As they say, friendship between a man and a woman is a relationship of either former lovers or future ones. Moreover, it is not a fact that the former will not turn into the latter. If your partner calls the previous girl a “friend”, prioritizes her desires, regularly arranges “friendly” gatherings with her, this clearly will not benefit your union.
6. He defends his ex-partner with foam at the mouth. Protects means supports, means he is disposed towards her, and this is no longer about indifference.
7. He shows jealousy amid her current relationship.
8. He invests money or time in it.
9. They did not have an explicit end to their union. After each break, all i’s must be dotted. And if they silently left and their story remained in limbo, on a pause, and there is no final understanding that they broke up, then at any moment this relationship can be resumed.
10. That’s what your intuition tells you. If you feel that the aura of the former is in the air around the man, this is a reason to think. That’s why it’s important to hear yourself and be honest with yourself and your partner.

You can always talk to each other. Confess to him that you are not ready to be a replacement for the past, to be in a relationship where the energy of an ex-lover hovers. And one more thing: if a partner even mentally rushes between you and someone else, let him choose anyone, but not you. Rise above it and nurture your inner value. After all, when you grow it, your partner will not even have such a dilemma.