Three types of men with whom it is difficult to build a relationship

The key to a happy relationship is complete acceptance of the person. However, the shortcomings of some people are simply impossible to accept. The expert spoke about which men will not be easy to build a happy relationship with.

Each person has their own pluses and minuses. However, if women notice their shortcomings and try to eliminate them, then men often simply do not pay attention to their small defects. It is difficult for them to realize that they have them. It may not be very nice to give nicknames or hang labels on people, but nevertheless it is better to understand in advance what kind of man is in front of you and whether it is worth spending your time on him.

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Probably the very first and most striking type of men with whom it is extremely difficult for me personally to have any kind of relationship is a narcissist man who devotes most of his time to his body, world, life and affairs. As a rule, such men are rather limited and too obsessed with themselves. These are men who go to beauty salons not just to get a haircut and manicure. They constantly visit the solarium, use various creams and masks. These guys in all their manifestations are proud and demand that everyone serve them.

I met such men and realized that this is absolutely not my type, because the whole world revolves around them, and, frankly, there is little truly masculine in them. For me, a man is a person who respects women, an intercessor and protector, a strong-willed and developed personality in every sense. He must be smarter and stronger than me, have a better profession than mine, be able to earn money and understand what deprivation is. And the narcissist man is weak, feminine, and behind the “brutality" there is often vulnerability and inability to adapt to the world. A person often does not know how to solve problems and difficult situations. This is all, of course, in my experience.

Addicts and depressives

The second type of men are addicts. They have something from which they cannot tear themselves away, and if you take it away, breaking will begin. Gamers, alcoholics and other similar guys. Any dependence for me is a synonym for weakness. A person who cannot fight his addictions, find strength and recover from them. For me, this is incomprehensible and unacceptable.

Imagine that something serious happens in life, and a person, instead of working, solving a problem or helping his loved ones, can go to a casino and lose all the money. Or another example: a person is late for the umpteenth time, simply because he wants to smoke and he doesn't care about the whole world. Unfortunately, I often saw this when, because of his weakness, a man simply cannot get himself together. People who succumb to such temptations are unhealthy, they do not monitor the preservation of their body and mind, destroying them. These people often fall into depression and apathy, they may not leave the house for days and not move at all, subsequently earning themselves additional psychological difficulties. In this state, there are a lot of excuses – laziness, addictions, unwillingness to do anything, loss of work and relationships.

Such a deep melancholy state is scary for me. And such people confuse me, because at any moment they can cancel all plans, refuse everything and substitute anyone. For men, this is unacceptable. When you make plans, want to fly away for a vacation, make a surprise, or just meet someone, such people can dramatically turn your plans upside down, saying: “I'm tired, I feel bad, I feel I don't need this.” And such people need to be constantly persuaded, begged, got out, if only they would come down to earth. Again, I refer to this type of people as weak, who cannot cope with their emotions. And they don't want to deal with it.

Favorite sons

The third type is the most difficult, in my opinion. These are mother's sons. The scourge of our time, because men have ceased to be knights, warriors and earners and have turned into hidden abusers. If you tie this type to those listed, then I would attribute it either to the first, since daffodils are often just the people whom my mother loved very much in childhood. But melancholic and depressed men could also be strongly attached to their mother in childhood. And mother's sons are the worst. Mom, as she decided everything in childhood for her son, so she decides in adulthood. What kind of girl should be, what kind of wife. And very often such men do not perceive other women at all.

Personally, this touched me twice, although I don’t want to talk about these cases, but I was convinced from my own experience that sometimes it’s simply impossible to build something serious with this type and it’s better not to go there at all. I believe that the total decision-making by mothers for their sons traumatizes and destroys a man. But mothers, unfortunately, do not understand that they cause such great damage. For such a man there will never be a worthy wife, there will always be something wrong. They will always be attached to their mother, they will only solve her problems and compare their companion with her. Such a man usually treats the other woman as if they were attendants. And the most important thing to know about this type: they are absolutely not made for a relationship, because they already have a relationship. With a mother who would never give up her son. Choosing such men, you need to understand that you will be in a relationship with your mother. So ask yourself if you are ready for a two-for-one bonus.

All three types that I have described are often connected with each other by several factors. For example, laziness, which justifies everything, weakness and unwillingness to be a man. Of course, it all depends on upbringing, since a lot comes from childhood. I would single out a separate caste when a boy is strongly influenced by his mother. These women, unfortunately, do not themselves understand how much they injure their sons when they are not released from the family for a long time, they make them eternal indulgences, and in general they treat them like girls. As a result, proud, melancholy and weak men grow up, from whom it remains only to run.