What do the most common sexual fantasies mean?

Every person, regardless of gender and marital status, has sexual fantasies. Most often, we ourselves cannot explain where they came from and what they mean, but psychologists have long known about this, if not all, then very, very much. British psychologist Michelle Doetry wrote a scientific article in which she briefly and popularly explained the origin of fantasies.

(Caution! Adult content).

Sex in a public place

If a person is attracted to making love in crowded places where they can easily be caught, then this means that this is exactly what he wants. Dr. Michel Doetry believes that this is due to the suppression of part of his nature for the sake of accepted social norms in society. Therefore, that same nature seeks to break out.

This is not the only explanation for the desire to have sex in public places. The psychologist claims that a person's masochistic inclinations can still play a role here. He wants to be caught, humiliated, judged, and maybe even punished.

Sex with two women

If unfamiliar women appear in such male fantasies, then they can be explained by an unfulfilled desire to prove their masculinity. But if we are talking about a married man, and he dreams of sex with his wife and, for example, her girlfriend, then this indicates an obvious craving for a new, unknown and at the same time about an unwillingness to lose the trust of his wife.

Sex with two men

Freud believed that the desire to be in bed with two partners comes from childhood, when the child sought protection and peace in the bed of his parents. Michelle Doetry has her own point of view on this phenomenon. If a woman is turned on by the thought of having sex with two guys, then this may mean that the woman depends on public opinion and is very constrained. Violation of social norms in fantasies excites her.

Sex with a stranger

According to Michelle Doetry, dreaming about sex with a stranger is a good way to experiment, to “fly off the coils." An unfamiliar man will never meet her again, and therefore will not condemn. Often girls with such fantasies are embarrassed by their partner or respect him too much to be completely relaxed with him.