6 undeniable signs that he is your soul mate

You are dating a man. Fall in love. But remember how you fell in love before this relationship, and that nothing serious came out of previous loves. And, of course, you can't be sure what will happen this time. How to understand, this love is what you need, or another relationship that will lead nowhere?

Instead of focusing on a partner's shortcomings, as we often do, let's focus on the signs by which you can determine that he is the right one.

He cares what you say

Very often I hear from women that on dates men only talk about themselves. And they do not pay attention to what you say at all, do not express curiosity about your work or hobbies. This is partly due to the fact that many men want to put on a show for you in order to get their portion of admiration. But we, of course, like those next to whom we ourselves become heard and understood.

One of my clients dated a man for 6 months and was not completely sure of the seriousness of their relationship. Until he said something like this to her: “You know I don't know much about charity, but I can see how important it is to you. Will you explain to me? I want to try to understand and share this part of your life." To say the client was surprised is an understatement. She never had a man who showed interest in this aspect of her life. And yes, she ended up staying with him.

He wants to spend time with you

At the beginning of communication, a man most often says that he thinks only of you and asks if you can come to him right now. But how advantageous are those partners who take the time to say: “Do you just want to talk?”, “I was going to take a walk in the park on the weekend, will you join?”, “What are you doing tomorrow? Would you like me to keep you company?"

Any person is looking for a partner according to their needs. For some men, the ideal would be a partner with whom he could meet from time to time for intimacy. And that's it. Without obligations and responsibility. If this does not suit you, then pay attention to whether a man wants to meet outside of bed, or all his efforts are always aimed at intimacy. If the latter, then this is probably not the person with whom you will get a family.

He not only takes, but also gives

Most women know how to give. They manage businesses and people, often take care of children alone, help elderly parents. And sometimes men are chosen as partners who need a mother more than a wife. In such couples, only the woman fills the relationship, and the man only drains them. How long will a woman feel happy in such conditions? I don't think.

We all need someone to fill us up. Of course, taking care of a partner is important, but saving does not mean caring. And we are often even proud of what kind of givers and rescuers we are. Reciprocity is a key concept that should be in a relationship. And care, emotional involvement, time devoted to each other, this also applies.

Do you want the same

This does not mean that the man you date for three weeks should swear eternal fidelity or promise to marry and be a worthy spouse for the next 40 years. But it is necessary to understand the vector of relations. When I was still dating my future husband, I did not know if we would ever get married, but I was sure that this is a man who is serious about marriage and having children. I knew he wasn't using me, wasn't wasting my time. We were moving in the same direction. What's the point of dating someone who doesn't want the same thing as you?

You can be yourself next to him

Openness, frankness, transparency and lack of censorship give partners the opportunity to understand if they are suitable for each other. In a relationship, we don't just need to be able to show our true feelings, we need to show our partner our vulnerability. Without it, there will be no true intimacy.

The ability to let your guard down, to be yourself with your insecurities, fears, sincere judgments, weaknesses – perhaps the most important thing in a pair. Otherwise, it's like walking on an eggshell and hoping it doesn't break. It is much easier to live with the confidence that your partner not only knows, but also accepts your shortcomings or weaknesses.

Are you proud of your relationship?

It is interesting that when a person has a relationship that truly makes him happy, in which it is safe and reliable, in which they hear and understand, then he wants to tell the whole world about it. Not because we care about the opinions of others, but because when we are happy, we want to share it.

And we avoid talking about our relationship if something embarrasses us or we are ashamed of something. And it's not because of other people and their opinions. It's because of ourselves. Nfr happens when the most pleasant and joyful feelings are not born inside the partner, which means there is no reason to share them. This list is not universal and is not definitive. There are other ways. But, I think that these six signs can be a good start in understanding if a partner is right for you.