“I was widowed almost 10 years ago. Since that time, there has been no intimacy in my life. At first, even think about getting into bed with some other man. Then the pain of loss went away, but I began to feel embarrassed about my age and status, it seems that a widow is not supposed to think about this. Only mourn. Now the children have grown up, I'm 55 years old, and I\u2019m very afraid to start a relationship again: I\u2019m shy of age, and sometimes it seems that after a 10-year break, I completely forgot how it happens, "<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
\u2014 Inna, 55 years old.- Hello, Inna. The emotions you feel are completely natural. It is unlikely that you once thought that your life would turn out this way. But, nevertheless, fate disposed of this way. Now, if an applicant appears on the horizon, most likely you are covered by different emotions – fear, doubts – “whether I am able to please someone, cause desire and passion.” But it\u2019s also scary to admit that there was such a break in intimate life – “if I tell the truth, I will look ridiculous.” Ask yourself a frank question – are you ready for sexual contact now? Not because you have to, but because you want to. If the answer is yes and a suitable person has appeared in life, one must be prepared that the first time will be quite crumpled. After such a long break, it will bring a lot of experiences, regardless of whether how experienced the partner will be. But make a promise to yourself in advance that you will be kinder to your body: you have the right to joy and pleasure. To avoid ridicule, condemnation or misunderstanding, it is not at all necessary to tell the new chosen one about your sexual abstinence. meet your man – do not be upset. In our time, the lack of a sexual life is not a synonym for lack of demand, but a personal choice for everyone. Do not think that over the years something has changed globally in the body. Without regular practice, the body goes into “standby mode” and gets used to getting discharged in other ways – for example, through creativity or sports activities. Now it\u2019s like a barrier in front of you, but as long as you feel it this way, everything will continue to happen. This is not a bar that you need to take, but just another stage in life. You can relax and prepare for the exit from sexual abstinence, for this you need to tune in to the right wave. Remember how good the sex was, how much you enjoyed it. You can watch erotic films, listen to sensual music.<\/p>\n