I am writing here because I need a female view from the outside or the opinion of a psychologist. I am 36 years old, I am married for the second time to a girl 10 years younger, from my first marriage I have two children 10 and 6 years old.<\/p>\n
I broke up with my ex-wife badly, you can say I left one woman for another. But he told everything as soon as he realized that feelings were taking over me. It seemed to me that I ruined our marriage, so I left her an apartment, a car and everything that was in the apartment, took only my things. Plus, paid her a large amount of money to smooth the gap.<\/p>\n
At first, the relationship was bad, the ex-wife did not allow to see and talk with the children, she constantly called, threatened, and did various dirty tricks. It was painful, because I loved children, but there was no way out of the situation. I just waited and tried to periodically take the initiative. And about a year later, she calmed down, began to allow her to see her children.<\/p>\n
I walk with them, I take them to my parents. We can say that we have reached a compromise, to which both have been going for a long time. She coped with her anger and resentment towards me, and I tried to endure her mockery and humiliation and not be angry for her inadequate reaction to parting. But another problem arose.<\/p>\n
My current wife categorically does not want to get acquainted with my children and is against my bringing them to our home. She says that I can see them anywhere, but bring home “only over her corpse", she is not going to participate in “this”. It seems that you can just not bring them, but they are important to me, I love them.<\/p>\n
I would really like her to have a common language with them, because they are not bad guys. I do not ask them to love, but at least to get to know each other, to accept the fact of their existence. Still, these are my children, they are also a part of me, a part of my life and, of course, I miss them, I want them to spend the night with us at least once a month.<\/p>\n
The most amazing thing is that even the former is not against our communication. I do not understand how to convince or persuade my wife to accept my children. Help! I love my current wife, but I suffer.<\/p>\n