Sex relieves headaches, premature aging, and even helps reduce the risk of depression. But scientists have found that 46% of women and about 40% of men can experience feelings of sadness, depression, and even the desire to cry after intercourse. We tell you what caused these emotions and whether it is necessary to sound the alarm.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
Scientists call this condition postcoital dysphoria. Two Australian studies in 2015 and 2018 found that about 40% of all men and women who participated in the study faced it, regardless of age, gender and sexual orientation. Instead of pleasant ease and calmness after sex, postcoital dysphoria envelops a person with guilt, longing, loneliness. These sensations cause anxiety and make you think that something has broken in the body or in relationships, however, scientists reassure: quite often this condition can be triggered by a surge in the hormones of pleasure and affection. During sex, the body receives an increased dose of sex hormones (testosterone), hormones attachment (oxytocin, dopamine), and after intercourse their concentration in the blood decreases. It can cause withdrawal syndrome, for which feelings of anxiety and discomfort are quite frequent reactions. Perhaps the partners have not been together for too long or, on the contrary, have recently taken a break in intimate life.<\/p>\n
Sometimes the reason for a depressed state lies in the plane of psychology and emotions. The topic of sex is still surrounded by a rather dense cloud of negative associations, and sometimes they make their way into the couple's personal life. Here are a few things that can cause postcoital dysphoria:<\/p>\n
Many people want to look like heroes from the covers of erotic novels during sex: when the angle is perfect, the figure is correct, the look is meaningful and mysterious, and the hair is like after a salon. But will it add positive emotions? Rather, trying to maintain a perfect appearance during sex will only distract and lead to even more irritation and fatigue.<\/p>\n
The reasons may be different: perhaps you were not interested enough in sex, but did not want to refuse a partner, or you would like sex to happen in a different place, under different circumstances and with a different partner.<\/p>\n
When relationships are turbulent, sex can turn into a desperate attempt to strengthen a crumbling bond, feel close to a partner. But the hormonal glue does not always work flawlessly, problems are cumulative, and if they are not addressed, then the miraculous orgasm or conciliatory sex will not work.<\/p>\n
"Does he\/she really like it, or is he\/she pretending?" Uncertainty in a partner and the search for a dirty trick turn sex into “Lie to me" and also distract from pleasure.<\/p>\n
Sex-related trauma can also lead to depression, where a person feels that their own boundaries have been violated. This is a strong emotional experience that can carry over to the next intimate relationship. Such a problem often requires the help of a specialist. Emotional reasons can be resolved by a sincere and honest conversation with a partner or a psychologist. Often they can be deeper than it seems at first glance, but this does not mean at all that it is impossible to deal with them.<\/p>\n