Sex in the public sense often resembles a competition: who is longer, who is better, who is higher, who is stronger. Sexual intercourse must be “perfect": on silk sheets, with candles flickering, to beautiful music. However, in real life things are a little different.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n
Having fantasies is not bad. And it's great if the sex in your head is 100% the same as the sex in reality. But sometimes we put too many expectations on the process. We want sex to be the best, the most unforgettable, the most beautiful. And it's just sex. Prejudice and high expectations prevent you from enjoying real sex – like in life, not like in the movies. Let's see what "problems" in sex society imposes on us and why they don't really exist.<\/p>\n
In fact: a kind of norm<\/strong><\/p>\n It is accepted that a person, especially a man, is always obliged to want sex. Modern culture, music and cinema are being built around the cult of sex; talk about sex among friends and on the Internet; even we are constantly writing how to make sex cooler. But it's also perfectly okay not to have sex. Desire comes and goes, it depends on many factors: stress, health, phase of the cycle, relationships between partners. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to ride someone after a hard day. In addition, there are asexuals in the world, approximately 1% of the population. Asexuals are not interested in sex in general and do not tend to have it almost never.<\/p>\n In fact: it's better to relax<\/strong><\/p>\n Take any erotic story: the heroine experiences the peak of pleasure several times per act, in bright colors and without much effort. We begin to shift these attitudes to ourselves and expect that we will also experience waves of orgasm every time. Moreover, the partner is upset when you cannot finish with him for a long time. Of course, it is possible that every sex will end in an orgasm. However, this is far from necessary. We are people, not functions. We are not obliged to end each sex with an orgasm, sex is pleasant in itself.<\/p>\n Really, it's just physiology.<\/strong><\/p>\n Natural things, like unusual postures or sounds from the vagina, seem unnatural, because they simply cannot be seen anywhere. Really, how long ago did you see an erotic movie that had stuff like that? But in fact, this is absolutely normal and is part of physiology and just physics. During sexual intercourse with a penis, air enters the vagina. After the air comes out with an unpleasant popping sound. If you treat this as a normal phenomenon, then it will no longer be a problem.<\/p>\n In fact, the body is the body<\/strong><\/p>\n Getting intimate with a new person is often scary – what if he thinks that something is wrong with me? I have small breasts, short legs, back with pimples… Men, in turn, are worried about the size of the penis. Feeling that any sex turns into a beauty contest. If two people decide to have sex, then they are satisfied with what they saw in front of them. When a man refuses to sleep with you because of the size of his hips, then it's not about you, but about him. And for those who are concerned about the practical part (for example, the penis does not give sufficient penetration), they came up with a bunch of sex toys. Nozzles, shorteners, simulators – everything is for your pleasure.<\/p>\n Actually, they are different things.<\/strong><\/p>\n It seems that when a stable partner appears in life, the rest of the spheres of sexuality should adapt to it. But it doesn't work like that: different spheres perform different functions. For example, reading erotic stories saturates emotionally, sexual intercourse – physically. Masturbation helps many people relax after a hard day, and the act has little to do with enjoying themselves or fantasizing about other women.<\/p>\n Sex in the public sense often resembles a competition: who is longer, who is better, who is higher, who is stronger. Sexual intercourse must be<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":453774,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_wp_rev_ctl_limit":""},"categories":[262],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-477948","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-and-relationships"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/477948","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=477948"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/477948\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/453774"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=477948"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=477948"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=477948"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}"Problem": I don't have an orgasm<\/h2>\n
"Problem": when the partner leaves, an unpleasant sound is heard<\/h2>\n
“Problem”: He\/I are too small\/large [insert body part]<\/h2>\n
"Problem": guy masturbates even though he has me<\/h2>\n