A lot is said about female sexuality: sometimes problems with orgasm, sometimes with arousal. But men also experience misfires, about which they are usually silent, although in fact, difficulties with ejaculation are quite common among the stronger sex. What are the causes of this disease and is it possible to fight it?<\/p>\n
According to doctors, delayed ejaculation manifests itself in different ways: lifelong, acquired, generalized and situational. Lifelong means that a man could never cum, acquired – that someone could cum before, but now cannot, generalized – that someone is constantly experiencing difficulties, and situational – that someone can cum only in certain situations, in a certain position, with a certain partner, etc. It is quite difficult to deal with such a problem, but still, in order to better understand what is happening, you need to hear from the partner about his past experience. However, before talking about this with your man, it may be helpful for you to have an idea of \u200b\u200bsome of the reasons why men sometimes fail to cum, and why delayed orgasm usually occurs.<\/p>\n
Men and women experience pleasure at different levels, and your partner may be on the lower end of the spectrum. If he does not experience strong sensations during sex, it may be difficult for him to achieve orgasm. Make an effort to engage more of your senses during intimacy. Add more stimulation to your sex life by saying dirty words to each other, moaning loudly, watching yourself in the mirror, lighting scented candles, listening to sexy music or watching porn. For a more intense experience, try using a vibrating cock ring or vibrator. The use of lubrication will also help with easy glide and more intense sensations.<\/p>\n
Your boyfriend may need more stimulation, kissing, or cuddling before the two of you move on to intercourse. If you don't usually have long foreplay before sex, try some handjobs or blowjobs for 10-15 minutes and then start having sex when he says you're ready.<\/p>\n
Orgasm is not only a physical, but also a mental state. Most men these days are under tremendous pressure to "show off" in the bedroom. Maybe he's so focused on how to be a good lover or why he doesn't cum that he doesn't pay enough attention to his own pleasure. Say something like, “I don't want to embarrass you, but I've noticed that you don't usually have orgasms during sex. I don't need you to have an orgasm, but I just want to make sure you're having a good time." He may be embarrassed or defensive at first, but this will let him know that you want him to enjoy it. Or try to have sex without an orgasm – take a bath together, give each other a massage. Find out what pleases both of you.<\/p>\n
Most people find it difficult to express what they need in bed, which means that many of them have sex that does not suit them. Your partner may want to fulfill their unusual fantasies or take on more power, but is embarrassed to talk about it. He may want you to stimulate him differently, or he may simply feel too uncomfortable to ask you to change position. Do not ask your partner about desires right in the middle of sex: this question creates too much pressure. Encourage him to be more open about his desires by talking about his own. And after sex, tell him what you really liked that time, and ask him to express his opinion too.<\/p>\n
Our society tends to think that men are tireless lovers who are ready to have sex at any opportunity. However, in fact, quite a few representatives of the stronger sex have a reduced libido (or none at all). So maybe your partner is just forcing himself to have sex when he doesn't really feel like it.<\/p>\n
Since this question can be very sensitive, try to be gentle about it. Ask your man questions from the category: “How do you feel about our sex life?", “How often would you like to have sex?” and "Do you ever feel the pressure to have sex when you're not in the mood?". Also try to find out what kind of physical intimacy, besides penetrative sex, he likes.<\/p>\n
Delayed ejaculation can be caused by a variety of medical factors, including medications, injury, heart disease, prostate problems, urinary tract infections, hormonal problems, or neurological conditions. Because there are many potential causes, it's important to get checked out by a doctor.<\/p>\n
All people are different when it comes to sex. It is possible that he experiences satisfaction without an orgasm and he just likes to please you.<\/p>\n