\nThere are no perfect people. Often we see only the tip of the iceberg, when someone seems more successful, happier, or vice versa, unhappy and lost person. Have you ever wondered why this is?
\nI will not rant a lot, but I will say briefly and clearly: The mental, moral and mental resilience of a person determines very, very much in our life.<\/strong>
\nIt would be a big mistake to think that a rich person is happy, but a sick person is unhappy, or that he has a beautiful wife, and I have a small, excuse me, dignity. All this is just a desire to justify their psychological weakness!
\nOf course, it is not easy to admit: “Yes, damn it, I'm just a slob, a whiner, a coward, etc.”
\nIt is with this admission that the main work begins, to strengthen psychological resilience and the ability to remain unshakable in critical situations.<\/p>\n
What is psychic strength?<\/h4>\n
It's you! Your energy, your trump card up your sleeve, your guardian angel, your weapon, shield and sword!
\nI've seen big, pumped-up guys who are not able to stand up for themselves and I have met skinny, nondescript shy guys who have tremendous fortitude and psychological strength.
\nThe question is, can we jump above our heads ?! Someone will say that you are what you are. I'll tell you: No, dude, you don't know who you are and what your potential is.
\nIt is important to find the right approach, the right “simulator”, your own method of struggle.
\nI want to share my ways, my observations and experiences in strengthening the moral and mental side of a person's personality.<\/p>\n
Break yourself.<\/h4>\n
Nothing strengthens the psyche like restrictions.<\/strong> You know, as a child, I went in for sports and forever remembered the words of the coach: “Your main opponent is your shadow!”. Now, as I grow up, I understand what it is about. Do you know what I mean by “hit the target”? This means that I specifically identify the source of weakness and work with it. In other words: I look my weaknesses in the eye, and not look for a way to dodge my own holes.<\/p>\n Learning to take your mind off a negative situation can help reduce stress right now. But to become resilient to difficult emotions in the long run, try to experience your feelings rather than push them away. Humor is a healthy defense mechanism in our psyche, so you should learn how to use it in stressful situations. This does not mean that you should be frivolous about what is happening. But irony will help you take control of your difficult emotions and discharge yourself.<\/p>\n The ability to laugh at the situation is useful not only at the moment when it happened. Let it be difficult for you to overcome negative emotions right now, if after a while you humorously tell your friends about your failure, it will not leave a serious mark on your psyche.<\/p>\n Prepare some positive statements about your capabilities. These should be words that remind you that you are stubborn and strong. Tell yourself, “I went through difficult times, so I can overcome what is happening now.” Let talking about your accomplishments become a positive mantra. Psychologists compare a person's emotional stability to a shield that protects against negativity and evil. It helps reduce the negative impact of stressful situations on a person.<\/p>\n There are several rules to follow in order to become an emotionally stable person:<\/p>\n Stop and concentrate.<\/p>\n Undoubtedly, each of us felt such a flurry of emotions that overwhelms our heads and makes it impossible to think rationally. This applies equally to both positive and negative emotions.<\/p>\n Now follow the guidelines:<\/p>\n Don't get hung up on how your body reacted to an external stimulus. If you have a quick heartbeat or sweat, then the manifestations will only become stronger if you focus on them; Breath.<\/p>\n The moment you react to a stimulus, your body responds accordingly – it trembles, gets cold or hot, sweats, muscles tense, pulse quickens, breathing becomes intermittent, etc. These sensations arise when, under the influence of stress, the sympathetic nervous system releases a colossal amount of activating hormones into the bloodstream. These include the well-known adrenaline. Take a deep breath, then exhale the same. Continue until you realize that the tension is receding.<\/p>\n Use belly breathing. You should feel that when you take a deep breath, your abdominal muscles are pulling apart from the tension; Smile.<\/p>\n A smile is one of the manifestations of positive emotions that a person experiences. Smile and you will cheer yourself up.<\/p>\n Smiling makes it easier to deal with stressful situations. Stand in front of the mirror and smile at yourself. But don't just do it with your lips. In this process, use all the muscles of the face, and especially the eyes. Does not work? Then bend, it will certainly cause not only a smile, but also laughter.<\/p>\n Imagination.<\/p>\n By using your imagination, you can find that quiet and safe place for yourself, where adversity and adversity will pass you. By training the imagination, a person is able to greatly simplify his own attitude to life.<\/p>\n Emotional stability of a person begins with the fact that a person ceases to feel in danger. Look for the safest place for yourself, where troubles and hardships will pass you. If there is none in real life, come up with one for yourself – the azure coast of the sea, a mountain peak, a boat in the middle of a quiet surface of a lake, etc.; What does he look like? How do you feel there? What does it smell like and what sounds do you like the most?<\/p>\n Recover your breath, relax. If you don't get it the first time, don't blame yourself. Feelings of insecurity and anxiety may appear. Try again and you will definitely succeed; Learn to manage stress.<\/p>\n In a state of stress, it is difficult for a person to manage their emotions. It's impossible to avoid them, but managing stress is a science. There are several ways to help you calm down and relieve yourself of stress:<\/p>\n A few deep breaths and long exhalations will help you calm down and begin to perceive the situation adequately; Turn off cognitive biases.<\/p>\n These are certain patterns of behavior that have formed in a person's head as standard reactions to certain stimuli. It so happens that these patterns can be triggered simultaneously, which leads to an overload of feelings and emotions. Learning to recognize and eliminate cognitive biases can help you free yourself from unnecessary anxiety.<\/p>\n Constant premonition of catastrophe (catastrophism).<\/p>\n This is a state when a person “inflates” every event to the size of an irreparable catastrophe. When you go so far in your thoughts that you no longer rely on real facts for a long time, but only feel how horror grows from all the new “details” that your imagination draws to you. This leads to the fact that you experience several negative emotions at once: anger, sadness, longing, irritation, etc.<\/p>\n You call your husband, and he does not answer the call for a while. After five minutes, you try again – the same result. A panic begins to grow in your soul: “It cannot be that he does not answer my calls! So he was angry with me for something. For what? What did I say or did wrong? Maybe he found another who is smarter and more obedient than me? What to do”? Overgeneralization or “all in one heap”.<\/p>\n People who are trying to find a connection between facts that have nothing in common suffer from such an assessment of the situation.<\/p>\n You went through a tough interview and were denied a job. Many in such a situation do not despair, and continue to look for work. But there are those who are inclined to engage in self-criticism and think that his failure is directly related to the “curse” imposed on him by a neighbor, or the fact that he is a failure in life. And from this it follows that he will never find a job; Extremes.<\/p>\n There is a category of people that divides the world into “white” and “black”. There are no halftones for them. Either everything should be perfect, or they don't need anything at all! This position is contrary to all the laws of common sense. Making excessive demands on himself, a person will achieve only that he will be aware of his uselessness and worthlessness. This will end in a state of deep depression.<\/p>\n You are on a strict diet. However, it turns out that you find yourself with your boyfriend in a cafe and eat a cake. Realizing that you have violated the diet, you accuse yourself of weak character, worthlessness and give up. You think that now you will eat everything and get fat, since you could not do such a little for yourself; Open up to the world.<\/p>\n The formation of emotional stability begins with the fact that a person learns not to be afraid of the world and people around him.<\/p>\n Emotionally closed people do not get a complete picture of feelings such as love, trust, friendship, mutual understanding, etc.; To develop emotional toughness, determine if your beliefs in life are firm or you are hesitant. This will help keep you feeling confident in those moments when you need to defend your point of view.<\/p>\n Emotional resilience is not a pot of gold at the other end of the rainbow. In fact, if you want to get stronger emotionally, you have to do some serious inner work. And this will require special skill and the right psychological tools.<\/p>\n Let's think about it for a minute. For a long time, the world has convinced us that “we should be happy.” We have heard this so often that we have become “addicted” to positive emotions. But one of the side effects of this worldview is the inability to cope with negative emotions. We consider them useless.<\/p>\n Sadness paralyzes you, and anger forces you to go too far, and in the end you swallow one disappointment after another, not understanding what to do with such difficult emotions. But emotionally strong people just accept them.<\/p>\n Remember, acceptance does not mean surrender. No, it speaks of your acceptance of certain internal facts and your readiness to process them.<\/p>\n One of the characteristics of emotionally tough people is their enthusiasm. Enthusiasts have an inner strength that gives them the energy to fight. They like to look for new challenges for themselves and to cope with them.<\/p>\n Change is part of life. And a person stuck in one place will eventually be destroyed. He will simply lose his enthusiasm. This is why we must not forget about the importance of change and how useful and necessary they are.<\/p>\n Instead of hesitating or procrastinating, take a step forward. Divide your plan into small steps so it doesn't seem overwhelming or overwhelming. Start small. Do not get hung up on worries about tomorrow, live now. See yourself not as a victim, but as a fighter – steadfast and unyielding.<\/p>\n Respond to difficult situations appropriately: If you feel that a minor problem seems catastrophic, try to look at the situation differently. Ask yourself, “Will this be important to me in five years?” Excessive stress can knock you off your feet and undermine your problem-solving ability.<\/p>\n Alcohol, drugs, gambling, overeating do not help solve problems. By resorting to these means, we only pretend for a short while that there are no problems. In fact, the difficulties will not only remain, but will also worsen – addiction, health and money problems will be added to them. And then there will be less strength to overcome difficult situations.<\/p>\n Sources used and useful links on the topic: https:\/\/heroine.ru\/8-sposobov-stat-emocionalno-ustojchivoj\/<\/a> https:\/\/zhiznbol.ru\/kak-stat-psihologicheski-silnym-chelovekom-9-sovetov\/<\/a> https: \/\/sunmag.me\/sovety\/22-03-2014-kak-stat-emotsionalno-ustojchivym-chelovekom.html<\/a> https:\/\/www.cluber.com.ua\/lifestyle\/samorazvitie-lifestyle\/2020\/03\/7-sposobov -stat-emoczionalno-silnee \/<\/a> https:\/\/www.psychologies.ru\/standpoint\/15-shagov-k-psihologicheskoy-ustoychivosti\/<\/a><\/p>\n To become an emotionally stable person, force yourself to distance yourself from the problem, take a deep breath, calm down, and act in stages.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":415766,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":"","_wp_rev_ctl_limit":""},"categories":[318,151,262,251,273],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-325555","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-for-women","category-lifehacks","category-love-and-relationships","category-miscellaneous","category-psychology"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/325555","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=325555"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/325555\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/415766"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=325555"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=325555"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=325555"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\nTry to limit your mind: Less fun and more work.
\nDo what you don't feel like doing. For example, I didn't really like reading books, I prefer watching movies. I began to overpower myself, and the time that I spent watching, now I spend reading. Yes, it is unpleasant, but boring (at first), but the very process of the struggle, it inspires me. I understand that I am leaving the zone of my “psychological” comfort, which means I am developing!<\/p>\nSports interest.<\/h4>\n
\nWhen a fighter defeats an opponent, the audience only sees the “spectacle”, the fighter actually defeats himself!
\nLet your sports interest, competitive attitude lead you. This is very important, especially for a man.
\nToday I will win, my victories are not great, but these are my victories.
\nIt is very important for a man to be a “warrior”. A warrior does not have to be armed. Because, even in a soldier, the main war begins in the heart and in the mind. Do you think it is easy to engage in mortal combat, go forward under the whistle of shells ?! Do you think someone is ready for this ?!
\nBut in truth, every day, each person enters into a mortal battle.
\nRemember this, because we never know when our life will end.<\/p>\nHit the target!<\/h4>\n
2 Live difficult emotions<\/h2>\n
\nSimply put, learn to suffer without calming yourself or switching to something else. This will prove to yourself that you are capable of experiencing and managing painful emotions.
\nOf course, it is not necessary to dwell on every unpleasant feeling in detail. But, when you constantly push and suppress emotions, it does not make your nervous system stronger.<\/p>\n3 Look for humor in any situation<\/h2>\n
4 Remind yourself of your accomplishments<\/h2>\n
\nWhat we say to ourselves in difficult times directly affects our mood. Challenge negative thoughts and remember that this is not the first test on your way.<\/p>\nDevelopment of emotional stability: stages of formation<\/h2>\n
\nDon't follow the general pattern. Do not simulate the development of a particular situation for yourself. The minute the brain receives a signal about the occurrence of an irritant, it forces the body to react as it was programmed in advance. Therefore, do not respond to irritation immediately. Stop, count slowly to ten, and begin to form a new pattern of behavior;
\nObserve your own behavior. This will help remove unnecessary reactions that have become habitual. A person's reaction to an external stimulus consists of a set of reactions to several information streams from different sense organs. By focusing your attention on what you are currently touching and hearing, you will save yourself a surge of unnecessary formulaic emotion.<\/p>\n
\nPlace one palm on your chest and the other on your stomach. It doesn't matter in what position you will do this exercise (sitting, lying or standing), the main thing is to straighten your back. Breathe in the air with your nose for a long and slow time, then breathe it out for the same long time through your lips folded into a tube. You need to take at least six such breaths per minute;
\nFocus on these exercises to take your mind off the problem.<\/p>\n
\nNow make sure that no one bothers you. To do this, choose the place and time where no one will bother you. You will only need a few minutes to be alone with yourself;
\nSit back in a chair or sofa. Get into a position in which you feel comfortable.<\/p>\n
\nTry to imagine each negative emotion as a specific object, phenomenon, or animal. Imagine jealousy is a burning candle. It will not be able to burn without an inflow of oxygen, so “cover it with a glass cover” and watch the flame go out. Or imagine that stress is an annoying mouse that scrapes under the floor all night and prevents you from sleeping. Let the “savior cat” into the room, which will quickly deal with the rodent, and free you from emotional distress.<\/p>\n
\nSlowly count to ten in your mind to give yourself time to concentrate on the problem;
\nTake time out and step back from the problem for a few minutes, then come back and tackle it with renewed vigor.<\/p>\n![\"8](\"https:\/\/inform.com.de\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/12\/c08b41212df1241d3730fe13c0691ae8-1.png\")
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\nReassure yourself in every confusing situation with the fact that thinking should be based on facts. Don't let your thoughts cling to speculation and assumptions. Do not build chains on what is not proven. If he doesn't answer, then he's busy. And about the offense and the presence of another woman in the husband's life, you need to ask him himself.<\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n
\nIf you notice a similar train of thought, do not despair, it is fixable! Find evidence that you are a failure. Yes, you do not have a decent job today, because at the old duty station there was a reduction in staffing, and you fell under it. Maybe you are not suitable for the company in which the interview took place in terms of knowledge or appearance. There are two options for correcting the situation: you find a problem, get rid of it and try to get an interview again, or you go to another company, successfully pass this stage, and get a highly paid and interesting job. Conclusion – one failure cannot be a pattern. It so happens that in the life of every person there may be “black bars”.<\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n
\nStop scolding yourself! Imagine that your friend ate this cake. Would you blame her for this “terrible offense”? Of course not! No achievement is easy for a person. A lot of effort is made on the way to the fulfillment of desires. Force yourself to go back to your diet and get back into the rhythm of a healthy lifestyle.<\/p>\n
\nDon't become a perfectionist. This concept has nothing to do with ambition and the desire for self-development. It makes you demand the unattainable from yourself in order to prove your own worth to others. Open-minded people are not afraid to make mistakes, they easily experience failures, quickly recover from them, and continue to go towards their intended goal.<\/p>\nHow to become emotionally strong: 7 steps<\/h2>\n
2 Embrace negative emotions<\/h2>\n
5 Don't forget that change is part of life.<\/h2>\n
5 Take action<\/h3>\n
10 Put Problems in Perspective<\/h3>\n
14 Say No to Self-Destruction<\/h3>\n